I am an verbal abuser

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When I am angry, I become rude as hell,

I say bad words, I say cruel things and I don’t know how to stop this.

At moments when I am angry, I feel like I need to say everything what I feel and think at the moment. It seems, that I need to be honest. Even though I become more rude than honest.

What I mean here- I use verbal abuse. Never physical.

It destroys my relationships… :frowning: Do you have any advice for me? I know, I should calm down, but at moments when I am angry calming down seems like nonsense.

I don’t even know if it’s like that because I have SZ, or it’s my character trait.

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What’s important is that you have insight about yourself. People are going to appreciate that you are willing to work on yourself. Hey you get zero judgement from me. We all have flaws.

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I can also be pretty mean and rude with my words…

It’s worse when I’m off meds/not stable, so…

I can’t tell if it’s just apart of my character or the SZ.

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It just seems I am many years like that.

When I am angry I say the cruelest things and then I apologize… but it feels like my this trait will destroy my relationships.

I make people feel bad :confused: Idk, I really need to learn to say these things in a different way. Not in a cruel one

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My sister is the same. I said to her that she should keep her emotions more to herself.

Maybe that’s too much to ask.

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It’s not too much, but I believe for very emotional ppl it’s really hard.

Probably its connected to impulse control, or… Idk.

It just seems that at certain moments I must say what I think, and it actually just makes everything worse

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But why do you get so angry?

I ask because I rarely get angry, and I want to understand where this anger comes from.

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I can be verbally abusive when experiencing a mixed episode.

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I believe it’s internal problems. Most of the times I remember something what happenned in my past. I know it’s wrong, but I still do overthink my past.

I don’t want to sound bad- but sometimes it happens for literally no reason. For example my BF is in a bad mood, then I overthink that probably I am the reason of his bad mood… and I become angry.

Maybe I really have issues with anger :confused:

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I see. I’m sorry to hear that. Anger is hurtful for yourself, even more than it is for those you snap at. I hope you can find a solution to become more positive and calm :pray:

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Take some anger management classes. That will help

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I believe it’s a good advice,

Some coping strategies would help.

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Ai generated not doxing anyone irl

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Oh my god :o :smiley:

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Thank you really,

I know I need to do something about it. :slight_smile: I literally need to learn how to calm myself …

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Yuuup :smiley: haha

Maybe meditation would help? (It’s what I thought after looking at this image) :smiley:

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I was like that for a very long time.

Practicing empathy helps a lot. The second step is to never speak without thinking.

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I am the same in terms of abusing. I used to abuse close ones for being mean to me. It was out of ignorance of my own self to manage my emotions. My life is totally different. Each one have their own reasons. It’s combination of physical and mental health issue for me.

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