I’m tired of being alone.
Thing is that I live alone,and everyone who can hurt me did it.I forgive them.
But I’m tired of preparing for daily tasks.
Just to the store and back home.
How do you cope with it?
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It is very very hard. It is the most paralysing part of the illness because we are social by nature. Everything else can be addressed and come to terms with, but loneliness is always because others view us as lesser or different to them
I actually don’t know if I deal with it very well at all, lately I’ve stopped listening to music and tried to listen to my thoughts and feelings too. It’s proven to me that loneliness might be something I’ll get used to (by doing nothing in particular)
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I really like your explanation …
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It doesn’t bother me anymore. I get enough social interaction.
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- I stay busy to maintain momentum.
- I do a minimum of socializing whether I feel like it or not. Facebook Groups is a Godsend. I meet like minded individuals to do things with locally. This ranges from Cribbage night to paddle boarding.
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I’m sorry @zoa that you feel lonely
Maybe like @shutterbug suggested you can join Facebook Groups, I belong to one.
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I hate anything local.
I’m in city.
I’m poorest in mile radius,and hate my city .
My family has distant roots as locals,and it’s like we speak different language.
Other places could fit me better,but I’m too old for change now.
It makes me sick to leave flat.
Our fb is same as city.
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I go to a mental illness clubhouse to socialize and to church on Sundays. I often don’t feel like going but when i do it helps the loneliness. I also come on this site. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, I’m sending you hugs…
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Thank you @WhiteRaven,you are very gentle…
I push people away and actively maintain it
It’s got to a point now that I doubt I could be in a serious relationship now as been alone for so long
A lot of my favourite people are dead
This is why this is purgatory
Pain of loss
We have that in common.
In my case I work remotely and have freedom to work from anywhere, but my wife is tied to a desk in an office in town, so here we are. Depressing.
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I did similar things to keep social. I set up a QQ group for fellow Schizophrenics in China. We get used to each other and talk everyday. Really nice people they are! And upbeat!
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Ive been by myself for the last 20 years and it does get better. I used to get sad when I would see couples holding one another and think why not me. Ive done alot of soul searching and found spirituality to be very helpful in regards to loneliness.
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I think when you reach a certain maturity in life you come to terms with loneliness. You are living in a city which makes loneliness worse when you are not used to it. You need to get creative meeting people, but be careful not to get hurt again. Set your boundaries and limits to protect your interests and passions.
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In addition to talking on QQ group I found reading good books helpful in dealing with loneliness. The content of the book must be insightful and loving which make your soul touched and stronger. Not all the books are useful in terms of coping with loneliness.
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I go to open access at a daycentre. It’s for people who’ve experienced MH problems.
Radio, T. V and Internet also help.