Today all my anger about not having a job anymore came spilling forth. All I can think about is how I’m no longer working. I have to wait for the decision regarding my disability claim before I can even think about going back. I’m being supported by my parents for now and I know a lot of people would be happy to be in my shoes so I almost feel guilty for feeling so bad about not working. I’ve been helping out around the house but I still feel useless. How can I heal from this?
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Maybe try volunteer work. It might give you some references. A lot of mental health organizations like NAMI need people and they sometimes have paid work folding newsletters or talking at schools or events like walks. I met friends through United self help and attend classes, support groups, etc. Day treatment is also good to do if you have time on your hands. I would highly recommend it as a starting point. Or a clubhouse job training program. Lots of free outings. I also am thinking about art class and have a membership to the local pool. Think of the free time as a gift. You can practice getting your feet wet with working or just enjoy your down time, cook, listen to music, shop. Lots of opportunities to try. Maybe study for a certification from home? Staying busy gives my life meaning and helps me to recover.
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you have to think of yourself and your own mental health, you cant work just now because you are not mentally fit enough, its the same with me the last 15 years i’ve been incapable of of work, who knows maybe you can go back to work some day but you need to give yourself time to heal, take care 
xxx
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Thanks guys. 
I’ll take those suggestions to heart, @anon62973308.
There’s a lot I can do, just have to work up the willpower.
You’re right, @daydreamer, I should be more patient with myself.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. You take care as well.
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Thanks @antidepressant044
I’m actually doing a lot better now tbh and i start training for a small hours jobs (under 14hrs) and i have been doing a couple of hours a week on a Thursday cleaning for the last 2-3 months,
If you are wanting to try again and you ever think you are ready then i suggest easing into it, step by step, build up your tolerances and it should help you cope, take care.
@anon62973308 is right, everything she has said i have done, the biggest thing i did was getting qualifications at college and the volunteering and both these things helped me with references when i needed them recently, before that i built up my tolerances and coping mechanisms that really helped but its was only really after i had a med change that i was able to do any of these things,
it different for everyone, you just got to find your own way
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@daydreamer Good for you! Those are some awesome accomplishments.
I definitely need healthy coping mechanisms, my old ones just led to more stress in the long run.
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I also hate not working, cuz I have a Master’s degree that’s basically useless. I haven’t been doing well the last few months and my pdoc doesn’t even want me to volunteer until I’ve had 3 months without a hospitalization (cuz I assaulted another pt. in the ward)…so I’m reading a lot, doing internet, and taking long walks when the weather permits. At least I have my freedom…
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@WhiteRaven That sucks. 
I hope things start look up for you.
Haha, yeah, we’re freeeeeee. That oughta count for something.
i suggest looking for some good distractions from your problems, try and focus on other things, good things, things that you like.
i couldn’t do this for a long time because i was taking a bad med (not saying you are) but yeah, do what you can and try and not focus on your illness.
I love having things to look forward too, having some great goals will help you to try and accomplish your dreams in life,
it took me a while to get to where i am and i still have a long way to go, think about it like you are on a journey but don’t go too fast, take your time and in time you will reap the rewards 
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yeah, i guess you just got to do what you can when you can, take breaks when you need them and just chill, i think your doc is a very good person to ask for advice, i like to give my doc good news about myself and i suggest you do the same, you already have some good news for him like you said keep it up bro
Thanks so much @daydreamer, your words are really helping me! I could probably stand to have my meds reviewed in all honesty, I’m not really wowed by risperidone thus far. I suppose that’s a whole different topic… 
I wanna view life in a more positive light, first new goal!
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excellent goal 
that is the best goal tbh 
If you want to talk about your med with me in pm thats cool but you got to remember i’m not a doc but i was taking rispiridone so i have some experience with that med xxx
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Thanks!
Haha I may just take you up on that offer after I get some sleep. Good night! Merry Christmas! Thanks again for all your help.
Your in a tough situation. That period between being disabled and Social Security kicking in is something many people have to go thru. Hang in there.
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