How in a world of 8 billion people, why must people be lonely?

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I have perhaps 5 people in my life, and only 2 of those - my parents, I see in any capacity that can be regarded as regular contact. I know some people may even have less than that, which upsets me.

It feels so demoralising that with all these people, no one seems to want to be friends with me for 7 years now. Again, some probably have had this even worse than that.

What I feel about this I cannot really describe. The rejection hurts, and I do not know how to get out of it.

My social skills are very poor, and I historically have placed trust in all the wrong people, and it ruined my life (Drugs, mainly) from a very young age

I feel like I am living in solitary confinement sometimes, as I live alone, and work alone. I want to have connections with other people, but I find interactions so draining a tiring, that I doubt I’d even be capable of maintaining anything long term, despite my natural need for social interaction.

All of this is confusing, and I don’t know the answers.

I just do not find it fair that after dealing with drugs and abuse from 11-17 years old, to psychosis from 17-33 (Present) I have had a lot to deal with and everything that people seem to take for granted is hopelessly broken for me, and I think this must be the case for many others too.

Wanted to make this post here to see if anyone can relate. I am not fishing for compassionate responses, but rather to see if anyone has found the fight against mental problems has left their lives in such a mess, that even with recovery, some things like simply having a friend to talk too are beyond reach - despite there being 8 billion people on this planet

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I blame marriage !

People pair off and don’t need/ want their friends anymore !

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I think some of us are just lonely people.

I’ve got a husband and three dogs,

Feel lonely and isolated all the time.

Maybe it’s part of the illness, maybe not.

If it weren’t for the voices, I’d be beyond lonely.

Anyway, about you,

A lot of people have poor social skills and still manage relationships.

I think you can,

Nurture the ones you’ve got and put yourself out there more.

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The evil Margaret Thatcher said this, "“They are casting their problems at society. And, you know, there’s no such thing as society. There are individual men and women and there are families. And no government can do anything except through people, and people must look after themselves first. It is our duty to look after ourselves and then, also, to look after our neighbours.”

It is a neoliberal policy that sets society to be isolated and alone. Loneliness is now a pandemic in its own right. The end result of no community is millions of people on antidepressants instead.

Unless you find a community you may always feel alone.

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yea can’t believe it, we not really alone, 8 billion people is alot people on the planet. Were alone because we choosing to be alone we need make desire interact with others, we are social animals, in our genetics. Go out and socialize already.

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I think I am more likely to find a cult before a community

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Isn’t this community a sz cult? :smiley:

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Loneliness is awful. I’ve been there. I know I say this a lot, but have you tried meetup.com? It’s full of people looking to make friends. And right now it’s virtual so you don’t have to leave your house to do it.

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I did try meet-up before Covid, but I got so anxious and paranoid about going it sent me into a spiral and because it made me feel so bad just thinking about it, I didn’t go :confused:

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I’d say so. But in a good way, not a bad.

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Most people have enough people in their lives. You have to find the ones who don’t. Don’t let anxiety stop you.

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I have always had the same problems and now I have liars following me around, lying about me for someone, who doesn’t want me to have friends.

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Individualism is great. You just need a good bit of socialism to go with it.

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the fam i grow up in my parents were always very social with others and still are like that today. I think some people like to keep to themselves more because its easier or they are more introverted.

I try to maintain friendships with a couple friends and then i have some aquantances for mountain bike pals.

I am terrible at social chit chat and deep convos lol so im more of an activity friend

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Ok. Well, be kind to yourself.

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