I feel emotionally flat and can’t get sexually aroused. I’ve tried looking at porn, all kinds of porn, to see if I find anything that works. Nothing. Only my wife’s interest. Only the real world works for me… Once in a while.
I don’t watch porn since over a decade. It makes addicted and I have masturbated more often because of it. I watched from 20 to 21 for a year porn and then quit. It effects the mind in a bad way. I think moderate consume of it, wouldn’t be to harmful, but who can watch something like that in a moderate way?
@Unclehenry Innate. I identify as asexual. Like, I can put myself in sexual situations with a partner and enjoy myself, but I don’t experience sexual attraction and sex just isn’t a driver for me. It’s just sort of icky.
Studies have shown that the same areas of the brain as cocaine addicts light up when you watch it
It can be seriously addicting
Among other things, it can reduce your masculinity, your confidence with girls and gives you a flawed sense of what is acceptable in a sexual relationship
Too many guys want to try what they see in the movies on real girls, but the girls find that disgusting
For a lot of people, fantasies are not at all things they would like to experience in real life. In a sexual context or otherwise. For example, many people fantasize about being superheros or action stars. But they would not actually enjoy having to be in such situations in reality.
Fantasy is generally harmless, even if the thing you are fantasizing about would cause harm if it happened in real life.
I had to stop watching porn: It was bad for me, feeding intrusive thoughts. When I watched porn I gave it too much of my attention, and then when I met new people all I could think about was boobies.
When I’m not viewing porn I am more attuned to people I think, and more interested in their lives and what they have to say. I feel more connected to people this way, without porn.
The thing is, people turn their trauma into kinks. It’s like if you take violence on it’s own then it’s horrific, but if you add sex then suddenly it becomes enjoyable. It’s some ■■■■■■ up coping mechanism.
I was coping with loneliness I think, and rejection and abandonment and bullying trauma.