As above
I care what people think too much on this website
It’s annoying
How can I stop that
As above
I care what people think too much on this website
It’s annoying
How can I stop that
The only suggestion I can offer is take longer breaks from this site. You might be getting too attached?
People on here can’t replace real people and friends. There’s a big limit on how much they can or want to help you… so set boundaries.
I just try to frame it in my mind that people’s intentions may get misconstrued as we only have text and the rare smiley or two to go off on here. Anything that may come off as something against me I just choose to take as a joke.
It’s hard to take longer breaks on here when I don’t do much. My motivation is low to do stuff irl but I guess I it may be worth trying again at some point.
I think the fact that you care so much makes you so sweet and kind and loving. Do you get flags and suspended? No. Well you must be doing something right.
Aw I’m flattered.
I need to get better at receiving compliments
Who upset you butterfly?
No one upset me but I’m just too concerned about how I come across on this website.
I should not give a ■■■■.
Oh right cool. Ya geez who cares how you come across. I think your lovely
I’m struggling with this too. I think for me it comes from low self esteem. People with high self esteem dont care as much about what other people think, but when you have low self esteem, like me, then what others say or think can tear you down.
Sorry to hear that @Squanchy
I understand what you mean about having low self esteem
I hope it’s less like that with time for you.
I kinda think I should leave the site for a while but I’m so glued to it. Cos my life is a bit non eventful atm
I’m kind of in the same place. I’ve been using this site as a crutch instead of for recovery, and I’m trying to find constructive hobbies to take my time up instead of spending most of my time on here.
I’m going to start working from home, I had to quit my job, so I’m looking for stuff I can do from home.
Also, I dont think it has to be all or nothing. I think it’s possible to cut back on one thing instead of outright leaving. With that being said, breaks are nice too.
Yea I have a feeling I will just see if I can cut down how active I am on here cos I know i’ll still lurk around. I just have a lot of free time atm that’s why n not in the mood to do much except for a few things here and there irl.
I’m sorry to hear you quit your job, I’m sure better things will come along though.
Good luck finding hobbies. that’s a good idea.
I don’t think it’s possible for me to do that. I know it’s possible for some people though, because I had a buddy in high school who literally never put any effort whatsoever into his appearance. He used to say “who cares what other people think.”
Caring what others think can be both good and bad. Being concerned with others feelings and wellbeing is good. Just don’t let yourself worry too much about it. It’s ok to be both empathetic and self conscious if it’s because you care about others. Just don’t let it go overboard where you’re afraid to say or do anything. That’s very excessive. I think you’re a really good person and that’s why you care. Just try to find some confidence in yourself and then you can find balance. When I get overly self conscious on this site I either reach out to everyone or take a little step back to get things back in perspective.
I was told that I needed to care about what I think about me. And that if people don’t like it that’s their problem not mine.
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