I have a friend that I met in my psychosis group. He told me about his kid and was really upset about being broke and living with his disabled mother and having to borrow money from her all the time. So several months back I lent him a lot of money $375 to be exact. I felt bad for him because he’s in a situation I was in a while back waiting to get approved for disability and SSI. He was so thankful and I felt good for helping out a friend. Fastforward to the past few months and at first he wouldn’t shut up about how thankful he was and how such a good friend I was and how he is going to pay me back. But…hey he needs another loan. He also has been asking me for pills. I told him look we have the same doctor tell him about your anxiety…well he just wants me to give him a few to ‘see how they work’ and if he likes them then when he gets his script filled he’d pay me back. He also kept begging me to hook him up with oxy. I made the mistake of telling him about how lucky I was to have some from a friend that has stage 4 cancer after a dental visit. Bad move! this is a really good friend that I’ve known for years, have gone to doctor appts with him etc. and isn’t some drug peddler. After I said I have benzos like xanax he won’t quit bugging me. So I finally said talk to our Dr and tell me how it goes. Then he shifted back to the money. He texts me casually in the beginning of the day and it always turns into ‘so how about that loan’. I finally said ■■■■ off dude and he didn’t talk to me for a month. Then I saw him in the lobby while we were both waiting for an appointment and he immediately was on me about getting a cigarette and money. He started high and then said just forty dollars is all I need. He literally won’t stop! I keep saying no and he keeps begging! Then when I get very firm he says oh I thought we were friends. I’m a very giving person but I don’t feel like constantly being poked and prodded for money at the same time I know he will pay me back when he gets his back pay. Do I give in? Is there a semi pleasant way to tell him to get off my back? He is telling me its urgent but if he’s gone this long without my help what’s another four months? Give in or say no what on earth have I gotten myself into this time.
And he’s in a very fragile mental state and has lots of triggers I honestly don’t know what to do