Me and my wife have been together for a year, I knew she had a mental Illness coming into the relationship we’ve known each other for years and she has a history of being sexually abused as a child and a bad last marriage where she was the punching bag. I love her and make sure she takes her meds,I am as supportive as I can but her highs are very high and her lows are lower than the depths of the ocean,she hears voices and for example last night she slept on the couch because she said the voices didn’t want her to sleep next to me,she has the voices cataloged,there is the dark and light,she says the dark make her hurt herself,she’s a cutter but has not done it for a while,I check, and the light just talks to her, she has accused me of sleeping around on her which I would never do, some days she is as sweet as candy and others …well she’s not,she hurls irrational accusations at me and blames me for them,my question is how to deal with them? I love her and we are trying to find a med that works but I’m beginning to feel like she’s pushing me away.how can I be more supportive? How can I tell her that her irrational thoughts are just that irrational without her getting angry?
You are really sweet to stand by her the way you do.
Just keep on reassuring her. Keep on helping with the meds. Keep on loving her. I think you’re on the right track.
@nikolas_Atha I’d like to encourage you to join our forum for Family and Caregivers that can be found at:
While this is a peer support forum for people with schizophrenia and other closely related psychotic disorders, the Family forum is specifically for people like yourself, who have a loved one they are concerned about.
Also, please let your loved one know about this forum as they may find it helpful.
Best of luck,
Moonbeam
Volunteer Moderator
You’ll probably get recommended to the family forum. It sounds like you are doing the best you can and are a good partner. After her experiences it may take quite some time of you behaving this way for her to fully trust you.
I know with me the closer I get to someone the more I end up “testing” them and basically doing things to try to push them away. I don’t do this because I want to, it’s like a protective reflex.
My bf learned so much at NAMI family to family.