my old man used to beat me when I was a child. he always said “Don’t speak unless spoken to.”
even though I don’t mean to, I still am very quiet around people and usually don’t say anything unless someone speaks to me first. I don’t like that about myself but I think it’s too ingrained.
anyone else come from a similar background?
Nothing that severe but my Dad puts me down a lot. Very little encouragement. It’s only things that he values that I get encouragement from like paying bills or fixing cars. It’s very difficult to please him because he cares only about very specific and very few things, so I either have to listen to hs cynical conspiracies or putting down things I love. Doesn’t make you want to do much.
Was raised to be seen and not heard also. My parents used the 1940’s parenting and book of phycology that’s the abridged version not even the good one with pictures.
Therapy has helped to move on a lot from it all with me.