I did say I hope to heal my feet though…
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But is it not Unkind to lie?
What do you mean?
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Not in every case.
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I was being sarcastic.
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Maybe, but,
I’d rather a guy said to me ’ it looks ugly but I still like you because you’re cool, and so i would still enjoy going down on you and enjoy having you as a girlfriend’ or something like that
As opposed to
‘it’s beautiful’
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No. Sometimes lying is not unkind.
My granny once met a kid. Seven years old. Proudly showing her new dress: what do you think? Granny said: you know I am honest. That is an absolutely horrible dress. Kid crying. THAT is unkind. Lying would have been a lot kinder.
There is just no use in telling someone their lady parts are ugly. You can shut up. Or be diplomatic. Tell them what part of them you do like. Or lie. They can’t change them (or they can, but shouldnt). So nobody gains with honesty.
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What are you trying to say,
Oh cos of the foot fetish.
Well, since he said he doesn’t mind, clearly it’s not that important to him.
Cos I’m. Not gonna let him touch my feet when there’s an infection there, I’d wear socks
There’s a million nice, normal guys who want to have sex too. Why pick a guy who has a fetish for foot fungi and asking strange women if he can see their genitalia? I mean if you’re not picky about who you have sex with at least get a decent guy.
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I mean,
He knows he’s not going to touch my feet lol.
He don’t want infection.
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I think the foot fetish is no problem. I think asking strangers for genitalia pics is a big huge red flag. Sorry @LittleMissSlothy…but I have quite a bit of experience with attracting idiots with as bad boundaries as I had…and we are a little concerned over this.
It is your dating life though! But be careful. And know what you yourself want.
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Yea it’s a bit strange asking to see my lady part.
Maybe it’s because I warned him it’s not like in porn and looks like… (ugly)
And so he was just naively curious to see.
It’s not like he is pressuring me to show him.
Naively? Really?
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No. He is a man. He is not naively curious to see your lady bits. No. Never.
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I mean, I’m not a kid. I understand the kid thing.
But I’m an adult. I’d rather know what he really thinks.
And like I said above,
You can say the truth in a rude or kind way and isn’t that what makes the difference?
Okay idk what I meant by that. Sorry.
But yea it’s curiosity. I suppose
Yes, I agree saying things kindly and diplomaticly helps a lot. But I think there is a difference…if my husband of 10 years tells me he thinks my lady parts look a bit strange, but he loves me…that…I could accept. For there is trust and love. I think telling a stranger on the internet something along those lines. No. I could not think of a kind way to phrase that. And there is also…not really… I’m very honest and direct…but there is no use. Being diplomatic could also mean… he says something nice that he means about them…and leave out the things he doesnt like.
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This is a kind way to say it imo.
And also,
Regarding there being no use in saying it to me I feel comfort in a guy reassuring me that ‘EVENTHOUGH it is ugly, I personally don’t mind that with you because I like you in total and that’s what matters more’ or such. It feels good to hear cos I always like to know what is on his mind as opposed to not knowing.
Maybe that’s just me.
Please, please…do not fool yourself. A heterosexual man does not ask a lady on the internet to show him her lady parts…because he is curious about the esthetics of them and just naively interested in their looks. That does not happen. I am not concerned he finds them ugly (and maybe don’t tell strangers that).
I agree that in general I would rather a man be honest. But not when judging my lady parts over the internet. :))
I don’t think you should be concerned though…I don’t think he will tell you that.
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I mean, yes I also know he is interested in sex.
That’s OK.
Lol. Because so am I.
If we vibe when we meet.
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