Sometimes a good wank is all what’s needed to get the day off to a good start
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There are certain things that I have no trouble doing every day:
Prayer
Meditation
Cooking
Reading
Practicing Piano
Yoga
Washing my face
Brushing my hair
Brushing my teeth
Taking my meds
And there are other things that I have no motivation to do or, they are almost impossible to do:
Bathing
Changing my clothes
Doing the dishes
Sifting the litter
Housework
Doing the laundry
Putting clean clothes away
Dressing for bed
Washing my hair
Yardwork (when I’m living in a house)
Taking trash out
Flossing
Ordering more meds
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@naturallycured, According to Ikigai, I have skills: piano performance and composition, that are what I love to do, and are what I am good at, and are my passions, and that will give me satisfaction, but a feeling of uselessness.
I have a volunteer job working for my church, that is what the world needs, and it is what I love to do, and it’s my mission in life, and that will give me delight and fullness, but no wealth.
@naturallycured, It’s interesting that you have an aptitude that could potentially bring you wealth.
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@SkinnyMe, I would go for the delight and fullness route. Money isn’t everything.
I have yet to find my ikigai.
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@naturallycured, Money to me, is almost everything, unfortunately.
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How to overcome motivatation…you have to start somewhere…
You have to have goal about motivation…research everything about motivation…
Gina,
What would you do with your life if:
- You had a fixed $5,000 monthly allowance?
Or - You suddenly won $1,000,000 in lottery (after tax deduction)?
there is an afterlife
I am working on that myself. I have found that vitamin b12 really helps me. A large dose of about 240mcg which is 10,000 % rda really helped me get moving this week. You must be careful not to go over that because you can get drug induced neuropathy. Just follow the directions on b12 energy pills carefully. Mine are B12 Extreme Energy from Dollar General.
I am taking a low dose of zoloft now, too. It helped me get out of this months long depression funk. I couldn’t barely move out of my chair to do anything. At o e poi t I went 2 weeks without a shower.
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I find that I have to just build momentum by tackling small pleasurable tasks or things that are already a habit for me like cleaning the cat litter box and cleaning his bowl. If it’s a really odious or complicated task it’s really hard for me to get going on it. Usually if it’s something like filing or taxes I will only set aside 10 minutes a day to work on it each day which I can usually stomach.
I was proud today that I went to our library and figured out how to print on their laser printer. I also made my wife lunch.
We have to give ourselves credit for small victories and accept that a lot of days we just won’t get much done and cut ourselves some slack.
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friends, family, for the greater good
I usually don’t have trouble making lists too 
I am rereading Steven Coveys “First Things First” book. I think I am reasonably comfortable with the roles ( husband, caregiver, mental patient, programmer, pet owner, tenant, car owner) I have now even though I don’t have a huge amount of status and money to show for them. It helps to organize tasks and goals each week as a subtree of each role.
For instance:
Caregiver:
Pay dads medical bills
Podiatrist
Nurse practitioner copay
Bring applesauce
Husband:
Buy flowers
Make plans for Valentine’s day
Pet owner:
Trim nails
Tenant:
Mop floors
Clean our storage unit
Mental patient:
See therapist
Attend support group
Car owner:
Get gas
Check oil
There are probably some proactive things I should be doing like going to car dealerships to check out new cars since ours is getting old or getting my blood work updated.
To quote Covey, for each role ask:
What are the one or two most important things I could do in this role this week that would have the greatest positive impact?
That’s a nice thought to have but there’s no guarentee of an afterlife
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perhaps its worth looking into
I sometimes struggle with lack of motivation. I try the best to push myself to get out of the house a few times a week.
For me, I do multiple support groups. It helps me to get out and talk to others with similar issues. I like the cooking and then the craft group they have. When I miss my groups, I get edgy and frustrated.
Try to maybe get into a new hobby?
Sometimes going for a walk will help you feel energized/better.
A hot shower is always nice and tends to wake me up if I am too sleepy.
Worry about becoming homeless after my parents pass away and wanting to have a next to normal life. I also worry that if I don’t keep going the depression will devour me and I’ll commit suicide someday if I don’t try
I have a serious problem with motivation. And I’m no longer interested in what I used to care about
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I went off my antidepressant and slowly started to decline until I realized I hadn’t gone to the gym in 2 weeks and hadn’t showered for 4 days straight. As soon as I started taking my Wellbutrin again my depression went away and I got back into the swing of things. It’s very tough to motivate yourself if you don’t have a drive or some sort of a purpose.
It’s very easy to say “oh you just have to push through it” but it’s very disabling. There are days when I don’t feel like doing anything and not even getting out of bed but now I’m starting to function a lot better and feel motivated to do things. It’s really weird how this motivation thing works.
My biggest fear is being homeless, being broke again, and not being able to take care of myself so I work to maintain some independence and help my parents out with bills and do what I can. That’s what keeps me going and motivated.
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