I’ve been talking to a guy online for about a month and a half now and he said he really likes me and i’ve told him that i like him too. The only problem (well not the only problem) is that he lives in the US and i live in the UK. We have kind of decided that first I’ll visit him (maybe this year). I’m not working at the moment so he has said that he will pay for part of the flight ticket. I’d rather him come to the UK but he doesn’t have a passport because he immigrated to the US when he was two years old. As he never need to leave the country. I video chat with him and I know he is real and sends pictures of him and his family etc. anyway have anyone of you been in a long distance relationship and did it work or not?
I have been in more than my fair share of LDRs. My first LDR lasted from 13-18, didn’t work out by insanity on both sides; 2nd LDR lasted partway through my second major relationship for about a year, I would estimate, on and off. We broke up because we got testy over being distant and having needs that weren’t being met.
Overall, would not recommend unless you are totally dedicated to that person and trust them wholeheartedly.
I had an online relationship once, didn’t work out, I never wanted to meet. I’ve had other friends exclusively online too, and they never wanted to meet. So they weren’t real relationships, basically, but closest I’ve had in my adult life outside my family, pathetic as that might sound.
I was in a long distance relationship my first few years of college. She was 10 hours away, and eventually things just fell apart. It was all my fault though, as I had started isolating myself and dealing with the early stages of sz.
I would not recommend it, especially considering you two are on different continents. But to each their own
Im talking toa guy 2 hours away from me. Im thinking if he lived abroad it would be too expencive to visit eachother.
I have had platonic penfriends abroad. That was nice.
I am the kind of girl who doesnt want to live with a guy. Thats why i would not get a guy abroad cause then i would have to emigrate and move in with him. I feel he would have too much control over me that way.
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There’s a video of a Brazilian guy who is in a distance relationship and for him it works. But he works pretty hard to handle his finances. I met him once. Very cool and inspiring man.
His video (it’s in Brazilian Portuguese):
I have and it was a rather tough experience, it had it’s positives though.
Now that I’m more mature I look back on it and realize there were certain things I could’ve done a lot better/differently.
I met the lady I dated in person before we did the long distance relationship though.
It still was a lot of stress on both of us.
I was in one with a gal for years, we skyped almost everyday, chatted about moving in together, but in reality the cost in doing so and all the legal stuff you have to go through if you are in different countries, it is just to expensive and unrealistic, unless you have a lot of cash.
We don’t talk anymore but I still think of her and the hard times she goes through, sitting in her room alone day after day. I doubt I would risk getting close to anyone on line anymore, sure friendly chats etc, but Unless they are in Canada I would not take it any further.
Online dating can be awesome as long you’re not dating online because you’re too afraid of getting out home.
you’re really taking a chance dating someone in a different country…I don’t trust his reasons why he can’t come to the UK. don’t do it…just something tells me it’s not a good situation…sorry.
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