On my fiance.
About an hour ago I was just talking with her and stimming qith.my hands and I guess it was annoying because she stopped me. My feelings were a little hurt because I stim to regulate since I’m autistic. All I did was tell her when you did that it hurt.my feelings. She stormed out and threatened suicide and punched a hole in our door and is threatening to leave me after screaming her head off at me.
Sorry, that sounds scary. Does she have known mental health issues?
She has borderline personality disorder so not exactly new
Yeah that would make sense then. Do you guys have a set safety plan for when one of you has an episode? Like how you would want the other to respond and how to talk it out afterwards?
Having to call the cops sucks. My parents called the cops on me when I was psychotic as I was violent too. I felt like a criminal two police cars and 4 cops entered my house.
We have a safety plan for me. I made that myself with.my therapist.
The police was yelling at me to make me stop attacking my mother and they were giving me orders. They even watched me while I was in boxers changing my clothes so they can bring me to mental hospital.
They took her to the hospital
Maybe they will give her benzos to calm her.
Yeah the cops came to my house a couple of times over the years.
I’m no criminal!
My ex wife had borderline.
It was a tough road to deal with over the years.
I don’t know if I can really handle it anymore. I thought I could when she would promise therapy, but there’s always an excuse not to go, I see progress but I know a therapist could really help her but she won’t give it a chance anymore. I’m trying to be empathetic, but when someone just threatens suicide because you share unpleasant feelings and scream at you so much you can’t even understand what’s being said… on top of being autistic and schizophrenic, going to school and working part time, and trying to keep up with hobbies and friends… idk if I can afford to add in someone doing this
It’s really hard to be in a relationship where both people have problems with mental illness.
That’s a lot to deal with, my friend. Sorry you have to go through all this
I think I should elaborate, I don’t mean it can’t be done, just that both people have to have their stuff together to make it work I think. You seem to have your ducks in a row, you’re working and attending school and keeping your social network alive, so you’re doing your part for sure!
I’m really broken up, I really don’t want to leave her but I feel like this is just straight up abuse even if its coming from mental illness
A friend of mine is helping me with a place to stay once I get to indianapolis, then helping me find a roommate
I know people who have borderline. Maybe you have a real relationship with her . . .
That has to be really hard to think about. Is this a regular occurance for her, or unusual behavior?
Really, no one except you can decide if this is a relationship you feel comfortable staying in. But you do deserve someone who treats you with respect. We all hurt our partners sometimes. Theres a huge difference between hurting your partner on accident and hurting your partner on purpose, though.
