When you are not stigmatized in the group and are allowed to express your frustration over stigma, I can see that.
I think a lot of the stigma years ago was just people’s fear of the unknown. There was no easy access to information back then but these days people have ubiquitous access to Google search. Fear of the unknown isn’t an issue any longer.
Certainly stigma is wrong. Could our self stigma be due to self esteem issues?