one of the staff members here at the group home i live at made a big deal about how she couldnt give me hugs anymore… and she still gives hugs to a couple of the other residents but says she shouldnt but gives them hugs anyway and not to me…
have u guys ever experienced this excluded feeling before and could she get in trouble for it?
Now a days you can get in big trouble for just about everything, if someone decides to attack. Nothing even has to happen, someone just needs to say it did and your life is over
Tell her it’s hurting your feelings.
That’s not very nice at all. Why would she exclude you?
Are you male?
Is she hugging female or male residents?
This seems very unprofessional.
Mental health workers are odd and they are only human. That means that sometimes they get petty mean, and even abusive. I was in a day program years ago and a new staff member got hired. I was fine with him and we kind of bonded over a few chess games. But there was a woman there who clashed with him. And man, that staff member made her miserable. They constantly had words and he put her down and frustrated her to no end. He drove her so crazy he made her cry. And everybody in the day program was witness to this behaviour every day. And no one stopped him. He shouldn’t have been doing this to her and there’s no excuse to it. But if she was smart she should have just backed off but she wanted to win and she never could and just added to the abuse.
Oh, yes, I’ve felt excluded a lot. I used to go to this one lesbian club (the only lesbian club in my hometown), and I felt completely ostracized by everyone there. No one would talk to me or smile at me or even recognize my existence. It made me very, very depressed. I was experiencing a very severe form of stigma.
And when I moved into this senior living community, there was one security guard who worked here, who hated me. She was always yelling at me and would treat me like s-it. She was very nice and kind and would joke around with everyone but me. With me she was mean, cruel and bossy. To this day, I don’t know what her problem was with me. I never did anything to her. She just hated me on sight. Luckily, she was eventually fired.
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