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Got invited to hang out

Hi peeps,

Hope you all are having a great day so far :sunny:

So yesterday after work, I got invited to a restaurant with some coworkers for dinner.

Ensue panic mode.

It’s been soooo long since I’ve hung out with anybody besides my mom that I just don’t know what to do or how to be these days.

I declined politely, but told them that we all needed to do something together soon.

Social anxiety is a big thing for me post-diagnosis. My confidence levels aren’t what they used to be, and as you guys know, once you’ve been through the ringer that is psychosis, it can be hard to just chill and relate to normies.

What do y’all think? Do you have issues hanging out with other people?

Thanks for reading :sunny:

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yes, I’m awkward as fukc.

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Haha, same @leafy, same :sweat_smile:

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I go out with close family on the odd occasion. My friends are all 1000 km’s away from me so I’m going nowhere.

I don’t get into that position where I’m being invited but if I would, I would also politely turn down the offer just like you did.

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I have a hard time talking for any length of time with NTs. My coping trick is to try to look for something ND about them and encourage that side. Most people who appear NT are secretly depressed, or socially anxious, or have hyperfixations, or something.

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I used to hate socialising with co workers at my old job.

Would usually go for the meal at a restaurant and then disappear as soon as the food was done with and people started on drinks

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I only struggle socially with certain people I’m fine with most everyone else you just have to remember people are more concerned with themselves they aren’t focusing too much on you

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I’m okay one on one, but once there is more than four or five people I get very socially anxious

I used to be a much more Social Animal, but I think there was always a touch of social anxiety

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Absolutelu never really been super social since I was little and it got so much worse with psychosis

I decline invitations or flake a lot now. Im really bad with it. I dont know the solution but youre for sure not alone lol

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im okay with dinners if other people do most of the talking. otherwise im an Awkward Andy :crazy_face:

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As a general rule I don’t have any issues with hanging out with other people. I used to have bad social anxiety, but I’ve largely gotten over it.

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@ninjastar, what are NTs and NDs? I think I’m dating myself but I don’t know and am curious

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NT: neurotypical. Someone with no mental illness or learning/cognitive disorder.

ND: neurodivergent. Anyone with a weird brain that does bonkers stuff.

I personally don’t believe anyone is actually NT. I think some people are just better at faking it.

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If we’re all “divergent,” aren’t we just back to being the same?

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Nah we’re all different. But I believe the concept of a “neurotypical” brain is an impossible standard. ND traits occur in pretty much everyone on the planet. Different ones in different people, but like, I have never met anyone who I could confidently still call NT after getting to know them better.

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@ninjastar True. I always put it more bluntly, everyone is crazy and no two ways about it.

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I went to a companies BBQ last week, found people to be unfriendly, felt awkward so I left

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Ok. Thanks @ninjastar.

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No, people don’t bite lol Honestly I am more comfortable with my current friends, we hanged out for 2hrs 2days ago, we chatted and went to Starbucks. I feel much better when I am with my friends than isolating myself at home for a long time. But I understand how you feel, when I did oral presentations in university I used to stress and sweat which made me repeat myself sometimes.

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The whole 70 students class were watching me.

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