I have been friends with her for about 6 months and have now seen her in recovery and herself, followed by a Cancer diagnosis and a relapse. I don’t know if she is already taking heroin again. But i know she already doesn’t think much of a bottle of vodka 2 days in a row.
She seems to be giving me a ‘way out’… not very welcome in her place last time i went over… not making any contact on days when she’s using / drinking.
and no plans of any sort now - her two major life events in this year (starting work and being in a play) are both cancelled because she has to have an hysterectomy right at the time when she’s back.
No idea what to do next
Don’t know what the AA would say or NA would say about it
You can’t convince your friend to stop using if she is not receptive. Try to suggest she might quit, but don’t push it too hard because she might get angry about it. Keep track of what she is doing so you can be there for her when she needs help. Try to get her out for a little sunshine and exercise. Maybe you could go on walks together. That’s about all you can do.