Feeling lonely and like I want to make some bad decisions

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I’m basically alone all day, everyday.

My husband provides the majority of my company, but the last couple weeks he’s been really distracted with work and exhausted from stress.

Now I’m getting no attention for long periods of time and that makes me want to go out and make some bad decisions.

He informed me this morning that his office is having a happy hour thing and that he’ll be home late…what?!

No!

I haven’t bathed in a week and look terrible, but I’m suddenly feeling motivated to get showered and break out some nice clothes so I can go to a nice dinner and meet some strangers.

I hate that I do this,

Does anyone else have this problem?

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Yes! My husband is also usually busy with work and doesn’t have the time he use to for me. I get really bored and also want to make bad decisions. I fight it for my kids.

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Yep. My bad decisions usually revolve around running away and not being careful to keep myself safe. If I’m not getting enough love and attention I often feel like leaving. I fight it a lot lately.

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I feel that.

Its hard when I know I could go out and seek the attention of some sexy stranger,

But its trouble and I know that too.

My husband isn’t intentionally neglecting me,

Its just that he has a super demanding job.

If I tell him I need more attention, its just going to stress him out further.

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Maybe give him a backrub when he gets home, do something to help him destress?

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Great idea,

But I do that every single day.

He has back problems from an old football injury so its my way of helping him and showing affection.

Its gotten to be pretty expected now and he’s usually on his phone ignoring me while its going on.

I’m trying man, I really am.

Thanks for the input,

I appreciate it.

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I’m sorry, prolly shouldn’t have said anything not knowing you guys.

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I appreciate you trying to help,

And I put the question out for input.

Thanks for answering, it was a great idea.

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I feel that I had ruined two of my past relationships because I have been unintentionally stuck up arsehole. And I was completely unaware of this topic until now. So thank you rex for this thread, it’s great food for thought.
If my ex would wake me up before things went way too downhill it might have been different.
I suggest you to explain yourself and make him aware of this problem in the most straightforward way.
I bet that if he knew how you are feeling and that his marriage is on the line he would have done some things differently. Then again he might not take it serious or not understand the consequences well enough.
Anyway I hope that things will get better for you guys, somehow

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Everytime I go through anything like this I always end up self-sabotaging and going on a downward spiral. This is actually something my best friend (And roomate) is going through right now, its a huge struggle! I’m sorry you’re going through this with your partner! its gotta be super tough. :frowning:

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Well, my husband must have some sort of 6th sense because he just called and asked if I wanted to join him for his after work thing.

I was in the middle of dressing up for my own night out and am relieved that he invited me.

So, now I’m out to a night out with my husband,

All I have to say is good call, jackass.

Very good call.

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I decided to focus on my career :unamused:

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Awesome! This is happy news @GoldenRex! Enjoy! You’re lovely!

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