Feel alone where I live

Sure I have friends I’ll say that right away. Some of them care about me a lot and my life coach is like family to me, he’s helped me through everything. I just feel like leaving here though. I just want a new life, I don’t want to be known by anyone. I have no money to move, I don’t have a job, no education. Hell I still live in my parents basement. So many people around me here are living their lives and building a life, and me? I’m stuck in a loop of not achieving anything.

I push myself away from people and have stopped trying to contact people or see them. I have no interest in people which isn’t entirely true, I only think of one person. I keep thinking of my ex who I broke up with in 2015 and I feel pathetic for it. I miss her and its been years since I’ve even spoke to her. None of my friends know I miss her and when she comes up they say she is crazy or something and I agree (to hide that I still care). I just miss having someone who actually understood me for once, I’ve never had that. We both were just so messed up we had a mutual understanding. We were able to talk about anything and never fight, if we disagreed we would debate and talk about it, we never raised our voices. I just wish I could hug her and never let go. I just want to tell her how much I miss her. I’ve never “loved” anyone and I’ve been in a few relationships and thought I did, but I was foolish and was infatuated. With her though I felt a connection I’ve never felt with any human being in my life. She accepted my crazy and listened to me every night about my fears and the voices, my hallucinations, everything. She never judged she would help me and she would go out of her way to do it. I was extremely lucky. Hell I remember my schizophrenia got so bad one time, she was leaving to go take her son home and I was in a place that triggered my schizophrenia and the ground was shaking. The voices were screaming at me and everything was falling apart around me. I remember looking into her eyes and how calm it made me, she was the first person I cried in front of about my schizophrenia. I do miss her and I just wish I could talk to her again. I should of never left her.

But now I want to move away so I can start over. Have no one know me, have no one remember me. I don’t have to ever run into people I know. I don’t have to run into her or her son, she kicked me out of her life shortly after we broke up. I don’t mean to be possessive I just never met someone like that and it’s hard for me to forget them please understand that. I don’t know a new start always makes me feel better. I’ve just been so depressed and full of anxiety living here.

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Dont run away. You will just feel worse.

I just feel I need an escape from the people here. I just hate how everyone here knows everyone it’s that small.

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Heartbreak isn’t easy to deal with it takes time. I have a feeling many of us here have similar feelings for someone. I myself try not to dwell on the past. It is not your fault you suffer from a mental illness. Maybe it would help to focus on improving yourself. Remember, it is part of life, sometimes things don’t go the way we want them to. I think this is especially true for us sufferers of mental illness. That doesn’t mean you have to give up. I hope you feel better soon. Give it some time.

I just felt different about her. Her son loved me so much that he wanted me to be his father (he never knew his father). Also having someone who understood everything in my head due to her having schizophrenia as well made me feel not so alone. I love both of them and am sure that won’t go away. She’s in a relationship now so I’m respecting that and trying to move on as best as I can. I’d rather her be happy with that guy cause I gave up when things got tough, she deserves better.

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You would immediately miss that feeling when you are all alone.

That’s a good idea. There are some people in life we will always love, I suppose. As for leaving town, I don’t think it’s the best idea. I left town and it didn’t help much. I miss my friends. Granted I had to leave, I had little choice.

I’ve tried “running away” a couple of times but whenever I did my delusions would start up and with no one to catch it, I ended up in the hospital…
I feel u on wanting to leave, I want someone to find me, but it’s just a game of time…