hi everyone i had a session with my sessionist few days back & we were talking about “relationship” to be frank i never had a serious relationship my entire life…& to tell you the truth i have been proposed by few girls but i rejected them i don’t know why even though i am single,so my therapist says maybe you have the fear of rejection you don’t give them a chance because from inside you already think that it’s never gonna work & said i have problem “out of sight out of mind” told me to work step by step by maintaining first friendship then love…but i don’t know for sure…But what i didn’t tell my therapist that i liked a girl very much when i was not old enough to know what is love from that time only i liked her very much but i never confronted her ,eventually we began to grow up but i never said anything to her…because i was fearing if i told her she will reject me & i will lose the privilege of being her friend also…so i was thinking is this the reason i have a fear of rejection…??
AND one other problem is-
I often dream of a girl that we are sitting together holding hands sitting on a bench overlooking the mountains watching sunset, but her face is always blurry & i wonder that somewhere …somewhere in this world ,where just me & her will be their with nothing but just with our feelings & where my life will be not upset with me…i am always searching for her in my dreams…i wished their will be a place where we will be kissing each other in any pretext …her world will be me & mine would be her…& i will be her HERO…
Am i going delusional again???
No, you’re not delusional. You’re just a possibly lonely guy dreaming about love.
thanks for your answer…@SkinnyMe
Yearning for love is part of the human condition. As long as you’re not erotomaniacal about a girl, where you think she wants you and hasn’t given you any real reason to think that, you’re probably OK.
no i am not erotomaniac…i am just a dreamer who dreams of a girl who will know my condition accept me for who am i…but its not gonna happen anytime soon…
I know one of the tendencies of SZ is to daydream too much, but if you have stability and feel like you have room in your life for someone, really give that search priority. Try not to have your standards too high though, otherwise you may be left hanging for years, if not decades …
Ya you are absolutely right…i used to keep my standards high & as a result i ended up being lonely but now i have changed somewhat, cause i believe in “don’t judge a book by its cover” cause beauty will eventually fade up but the personality & the soul will remain the same…so now i am looking for someone with whom i will have understanding…
You’re not delusional.
From what I’ve seen of your art, and what you’ve told me on the forum I think you’re a beautiful soul.
I agree with your therapist, starting out as friends is best, my husband and I are best friends above all else.
I have faith you’ll find someone.
thank you @anon84763962 it means a lot …yes firstly i will try to maintain friendship after that when i will succeed on that then i will try love …you can say that i am a hopeless romantic that’s what i feel about myself…
Deep bhai lageraho…??? I will stay single forever…!!!
I’m a romantic too!
nahi vii dekhna…tum itne ache ho …tumko bahut khubsurat humsafar milegi…
Dekhtehe kise kown milega…!!! Sz ne sab barbad karde he…!!!
bro always be optimistic…don’t worry you will get a nice gf…
No these rumintions and delusions are very common in normies… 
Oh i see thanks for sharing your thought…@zeno
I don’t know i still kind of believe in soul mates and i feel it can be sensed. 26 years with my husband, ups and downs, leaving each other only to know we’d be back. was no perfect path but it was right for us both. Through all the ups and downs it was significant. we both could sense it.
I fear rejection too I feel like I’m not good enough. Its quite a troublesome feeling. But I’m working on restoring my confidence. Good luck I have faith in u too! We can both be successful romantics in the future.
I don’t have any fear of rejection but im waiting to find someone who likes me. My last gf knew I was sick. But it wasn’t a good relationship. I’ve never had a lasting relationship.
ya me too buddy i think people believing in soulmates are not extinct as i thought to be…
