I basically have zero desire to see any of my family or friends ever. Anyone have any guesses as to the psychology of this? Or feel similar?
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I’ve had this at times myself. For me it was when I was depressed and stressed. The amount of effort it took to carry on a relationship was more than I could handle and the undue stress that the expectations that my family and friends put on me was tiresome. I simply wanted to be left alone. I was busy recovering.
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@Leaf yeah that makes sense. I feel as though my whole life consists of either being unwell or recovering. An endless cycle. So it’s a big stressor and effort to try to keep and maintain relationships with people.
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I’m so sorry. Hopefully you can get to the point in healing that you’ll be doing well enough to start maintaining some relationships. Until then your friends and family are going to have to understand you only have so much energy and you have to spend it on making yourself better. It’s a matter of survival. These people don’t understand because they don’t have mental illness to the level that we do. And they will make you feel guilty fo needing to take care of yourself and making yourself a priority. Don’t let them.
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So what are you current wishes and desires, @Ozzyskits ? If I may ask.
@Andrey that’s a tough question. But I guess a wish and desire of mine is to be Able to feel more. I’m so numb emotionally, flat affect, anhedonic, apathetic and all that. I just want to feel good within myself I guess. Have zest for life.
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I’ve been like that for several years.
Negative symptoms are a b1tch.
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I’m okay with friends within reason, have limited use for my family and none at all for my wife’s excepting her brother who is sometimes tolerable.
I like seeing my friends in a group. I don’t always enjoy every meeting, but I’m usually glad I went. Sometimes I do feel disconnected from their lifestyles, but I try not to focus too much on that, and remember that its not something they are doing out of spite.
That said I don’t always feel comfortable one on one. I just can’t keep conversation flowing for very long.
I feel very disconnected from family regardless if its big or small group. I feel like its a waste of time. I like spending time with my Mum, and I like my family that lives abroad, but the rest of my family just don’t understand me and don’t even try to. They just think the problem is me and put no effort in trying to be supportive to me.
One additional problem for me is that politically there are often conservative voices, and I just feel like that goes against anyone who is dependent on the government for support, and by voicing that in front of me it basically makes me feel like they don’t care about me on a fundamental/ideological level.
My Grandad often makes a point of asking me to call him if I want help or advice, but I just feel like he’s coming from such a very different angle, and I just feel like its stress he doesn’t need (he is 87). So I don’t bother with that anymore even though I do like him.
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I feel similar. My mother tries to invite me, she would even come and pick me up. She calls or comes here every couple weeks. Most of the time I tell her that I don’t want to, ’cause I really don’t want to. And my brother said couple times that I can come and visit him, his wife and my niece. I did it only three times this year.
I have no urge to go and see my family. All I want to do is to stay at my room. Sometimes I feel, like it is somehow too draining, to go to them or with them. I feel lost under people.
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I have zero desire to have friends because I feel social anxiety.
Maybe you feel the same?
Therapy of the cbt type might help me to rearrange my thinking style.
I am going into long term therapy in July or August this year.
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I am totally the same. I pushed everyone away and prefer to be alone. My dad brings me dinner and that’s it. 
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Are you going inpatient? 
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No it is outpatient but basically once I complete the sessions with that hospital as an outpatient they have signposted me to somewhere where counselling is ongoing, lifelong even, as long as the service stays up and running…
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I have been like this in the past. But injection changed everything for me. It’s a more consistent dose and it’s really changed my life around. I’m more sociable now.
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That sounds great. I hope it works out for you. 
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Thankyou GrayBear :))
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oh that sounds good @Zoe … i wish i could get some help close to my home but everything is pretty far away and as i can’t go out by myself it’s impossible to get there.
i hope the sessions and the counseling afterwards will go well for you!
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