Hi all, i wasnt going to write about this but it has been bothering me a lot,
My close friend has started abusing co codamol and i am very worried about him, i said to him that i was very disappointed in him and that i hope it doesnt affect our friendship but i said if he kept doing it that it might affect our friendship, idk if i am doing the right thing but i said that i didnt want to lose him as a friend,
This morning there was a charity speaking at my church about addiction and recovery so i donated £20 and took some leaflets over to my frieds place and i tried to get him to go to the meeting tonight but he didnt want to.
He is going to have to take the first step himself. You can talk to him about it all you want, but until he realizes there is an issue that needs to be fixed, it’ll be like talking to a brick wall. If you decide to let him go, let him know you’ll be there for him when he’s ready for help. He’ll be able to use the support.
He kind of knows he has a problem and has been taking steps to get help and this is a good thing but it really hit home the seriousness of it on Sat night, and I have been worried about him since,
He is going to a new clinic for addiction and may need a substitute drug that isnt as dangerous, I’ve known a few other ex addicts and i know how dangerous it is for them
The only thing that changed my way was getting put in a young offenders institute, losing my mind and then having the support of an experienced drugs consoler.
To be honest, I met lots of people who liked me, and were kinda friends with me when I was younger, but I pushed them all away in the end, and by time I gave up it was too late.
I don’t want you to lose this person as a friend, as once he gets over it, I want him to have real friends not into drugs to be there for him
I worry that your friend might do the same, and when he does come back from it the reality is hard to cope with when you have to ditch all your drug taking friends to get clean and everyone else thinks you’re a lost cause.
Coming from a family full of addicts and being one myself I can tell you that you can’t help someone that doesn’t want help. Your only going to cause yourself harm. You are going to need to set boundaries with your friend to keep a healthy friendship. If those boundaries end up crossed then it’s best you cut that friend off for a while.
I saw him this morning and he said he wanted to check out the charity that i signposted him too, they have groups and recovery cafe’s so hopefully he can talk to others with similar addictions.
btw he is taking anti-abuse meds for alcohol too so he cant drink alcohol at all.
Obviously you care a great deal for your friend and with that and the fact that you are a good example that will be very helpful for him in his recovery when he decides to take that step. You’ve done everything you can do to help by giving him the referral and showing you care. The rest is up to him.