I have to take an elderly relative (by taxi) to the hospital this week for something (supposedly) routine.
I’m stressing out about it in every way. I think it’s because
- I have no choice
- It’s happening at a time not of my choosing
I think it’s difficult enough to do stuff voluntarily at a time of my choosing. But having to do stuff where I have no choice really stresses me.
I had to get my car inspected today.
I was nervous but I went with my brother.
He helped me out.
It went well.
Yep. It definitely does. Especially when it involves someone else counting on me to do something or be somewhere.
Oh, definitely. Not having a choice is awful to me. That’s why sometimes I struggle with work and school.
It makes no difference to me if I have to be somewhere a certain time or not. I try to practice at the things I’m bad at tho. Honestly I feel like I went to an intensive therapy program and they really emphasize learning to overcome your anxieties and bad habits by repeated exposure. It works for me and it really has been improving my life.
Yes, I can relate to this.
Having to do much of anything is stressful, for me. Things of importance are the worst.
I put myself in this situation constantly and it’s really stressful. To the point where I’m so focused on this thing I have to do I can’t be okay until it’s all done and usually that means I’m losing out on enjoying a day.
My husband went away on vacation for a week. He is gone until 3am Wednesday morning. And I didn’t relax by myself for more than one night. Not even a full day because I graciously signed myself up for a bunch of things to do for it with family members and I mmmm super bummed now that it’s over. I wish I could rewind and go back and sit and have tea alone.
Yes, having to do anything at all stresses me out. But, that doesn’t usually keep me from doing them. Usually anyway. Like, right now, I have to do yoga. It is 1000 pm and it is time for me to do my yoga. It is getting later and later and like usual, I am procrastinating and putting it off. It only takes 35 minutes to do. I should just get up and do it.
It depends on who wants me to do something. If I have to do something that I set for myself, it will eventually get done…if someone else tells me it HAS to be done, I am much more defiant and will resist doing it.
Yeah setting goals totally bums me out. I really just want to live in a bunker for like a year with no responsibilities. And live off rations. Maybe I would still want access to my video games though.
yes it stresses me out. I much prefer choice it is freedom and flexibility and allows for your off moments or days. Not having a choice and having to be there no matter what creates anxiety because I might have a bad migraine that day (migraines affect my vision) or I might not have slept well etc and I fear I will let the person down.
Having to shower, cook and eat my own meals, take a dump, or piss, take meds, clean, or do laundry is not stressful. Having to do something outside the apartment is.
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