look for the mentally ill/bi folk… they the coolest anyway
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I have a couple of close friends but they all live interstate. I have people I am friendly with at work but I don’t tell them much about myself and I don’t socialise with them outside of work.
Thats gonna be a challenge especially the mentally ill part. Most people in school are really open about sexuality but mental illness is another ball park. Im even in a group therapy and no one has any sort of illness. And no one even tries to communicate with me after group. They tell us we shouldn’t but still. I just don’t know where to begin to find those people
Yeah, we are. 
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true that 
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I like to think i do. They don’t have drama like some people i see, if i ask them to listen they often do, they are funny and responsible, and the few that know about my illness do a good job of looking out for me. But i often feel like their relationships with eachother are alot stronger then their relationship with me. Like im sort of on the side lines as far as our little group goes. Then again, i have a much different back ground then them all. They lived very privileged acedemic focused lives, while i live a very poor and cultural focused. Then again with my culture and other background i had trouble relating to most people. I should just be greatful they treated me as well as the do.
I had the same issue of blurting stuff out in college, my Pdoc says it was probably my early signs of developing the illness.
The way I dealt with it was by writing it down first if I could, and if I couldn’t? id laugh and say “Well that was stupid / awkward.”
As for being more open with and approaching people? Try to make friends first, then when you feel you can trust them enough, tell them you have trouble socializing with the people you are sexually attracted to. Usually in college your buddies will help you with this.
Also, be open minded in the people you date. I know you prolly already know this, but, looks aren’t everything, and just because a girl isn’t interested in sex right away doesn’t mean she isn’t interested period.
Me and my current GF have been dating since November and we still haven’t had it yet, in fact she is still a virgin at 24, because for her a relationship needs to be stable before she is willing to commit to that. And I respect that. RESPECT it is the most important thing when trying to form a relationship of anykind. Keep it in mind when maming friends too!
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Easier said then done. But thanks for the advice. I have kind of one acquaintance whos a gay man but i don’t think he gives a ■■■■ enough about me to help me with talking with women. Or anything for that matter except asking me for answers on astro hw. Most people i meet already have friends and dont want to add new ones. But ill try. Thanks again
Ha! That made me feel better too! You’re definitely not alone on that one @Kazuma!
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I have two friends, four including my brothers. Known at a distance but for a long time + dedicated to sticking with me because they’ve considered me to be a valuable person at times when I wasn’t sure.
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I have 3 close friends 
who know my condition and have stayed at my side.I can talk with them about my issues and they have understanding.I think i am very lucky!!!
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