One of my closest friends is a nurse practitioner.
She’s had to quit working because of how advanced her MS has gotten.
We’ve been talking more and more,
Now are working on a project together.
But sometimes she accidently hurts my feelings a little bit.
Once she asked when she could call and was like “Oh it doesn’t matter, I know you don’t have ■■■■ to do all day”.
True, funny, but also a little insulting?
Maybe.
Then another time she called, bored,
Wanted to know what I do with myself all day.
So I told her my routine and she told me I was her “do-nothing guru”.
We’ve always had what we’ve lovingly called a “full contact friendship”.
I don’t know how we came to that term, but it basically means, no ■■■■■■■■.
We say what we mean, and we’re direct with each other.
Our friendship birthed from a bullying type situation in middle school so we were already on brutally honest terms when we started.
I don’t want to tell her those comments hurt my feelings though.
It’s just because I’m sensitive about that particular subject.
And I know she feels sensitive about it too because this is the first time in her life she hasn’t been insanely busy with school or work.
She’s projecting a little bit, but she’s also not wrong about me.
I’m hoping doing this project together will help us feel a little more productive.
Anyway,
Should I just accept this as a little bit of projection and let it go,
Or give her a big talk about how what we do matters even if we aren’t students and don’t work?