I’ve been in circle about this.
I want intimacy, but I’m afraid of sex, and how would I feel after…
That’s the reason of avoiding it for twenty years.
Another thing is there too…
If my partner tells someone else about it (small town)…
I’m desperate to find someone I could trust enough.
Insecure I feel
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That’s what it takes. If you meet someone get to know them over time snd if trust and love builds as a result then it’ll make intimacy much easier for both of you
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@LilyoftheValley, thanks, but there was just one person who I trusted the moment I saw her, and didn’t get the name.
Finding a person you can trust is hard…
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I got SZ young so yes, but only 7 times in my whole life and i never really cared for it.
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Once. Honestly it has been embarrassing. I’ve kind of just given up on it. I still want to be in a relationship, but sex itself isn’t a big deal to me anymore.
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I’m wierd too. after what 12 year? I agree get to know the person over time and it should be okay.
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@crazydiamond444, may I ask you why it felt embarrassing?
I’m happily married, and we could not be more devoted to one another, but it’s been more than a year since we had sex. We’re both on heavy psych meds and things don’t work right anymore. Tons of snuggling though!
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Not having sex in 10 years? Because it says something about my desirability as a human being.
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@anon39736208, thanks, I know that my former friend was in marriage, for two years, and he said they couldn’t be intimate.
They split up when it became problem for his wife…
Both are sz.
Managing a relationship with someone who has sz is impossible. Especially if they don’t know they have an illness. Maybe it could work between two people who have recovered, but I think it is a real challenge to get two people who live in separate realities to relate in any meaningful way.
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Thanks a lot @crazydiamond444, it was exactly what I thought considering my situation
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In our case, I have sza bipolar as well as DID, and he is Bipolar Type II. We’re also both childhood trauma survivors. So we’re patient about it. Very devoted though. 
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You can be intimate without sex such as holding hands, cuddling.
I have a good sex life with my boyfriend.
We only meet each other weekends and have sex once or twice a week.
He is a amazing lover and makes love to me and I just lay there enjoying it.
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Yeah i did. Paid ones and unpaid lol
Are you saying that you cheated some out of their pay? 
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Hahaha good one 
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I havent had sex in at least 4 years. 2 years since ive been diagnosed and havent really left the house. I miss it. I dont ejaculate anymore due to the meds. So that might be embarrassing.
It’s been decades for me since I’ve gotten freaky in the sack.
I’m determined to change that though.
I’ve been chatting with some nice ladies on Bumble.
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It was the best thirty seconds of my life.
I’ve been married over 22 years. Nookied quite a bit over that time (all of it with SZ).
Highly recommended.
YAAA BOIIIII!!!
You can do it - you’re a good catch.
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