I was alone in town one night with nowhere to be apart from the institution i escaped to get there in the first place and someone asked me if i wanted to go smoke an oz of hash with him
i got in the car and we smoked all night, kissed a bit in the back but nothing serious… it didn t go well and it seemed neither of us wanted it to go further
the next day around lunch he said he s gonna drop me off in town
i asked if there was any left and he said no we smoked it all but i did save this one for you.
that is what concerns me as well as he said he had driven 250 miles to go and pick up a homeless girl off the street. Who would do that?
i don t remember a thing till after midnight the next day a woman shook me awake in the middle of the pavement - i think i lost about 12 hrs
I have no memory of anything and also didn’t really feel different.
I feel frustrated i will not have an answer to what happened - ever. This was a while ago now …
i only have blacked out from binge drinking once or twice - it’s not usual for me to end up in someone’s bed after a night out. not remembering anything
No one can answer that
I don’t know what happened because I wasn’t there. But if you had no pain down there, hopefully that means at least if you did have sex with him it probably wasn’t rough. If you think he may have either raped you or had sex with you, you should get an STI test.
I’m not sure what your stance is on things but you may want to take the morning after pill. It’s good for three days after.
I mean, if he wasn’t intoxicated and had sex with you while you were, then yes, it’s definitely rape. The issue here is that I imagine he was high as well, yes? In that case, then it may not have been rape, but I wasn’t there, so I don’t know. Legally, I think you’d have some trouble because there’s no way to prove that he wasn’t high as well, and waking up in the middle of an alleyway after having blacked out with a vague memory of a strange conversation isn’t exactly proof of a crime. Do you think maybe there was any security camera footage that may paint a picture of what happened? Did you find anything on your phone that may help?
Have you been to the hospital? You may want to have them check you out, get checked for STD’s, the like. I don’t really know what to do in this situation, honestly. I’m not sure what I would do. But if you were raped, know that it wasn’t your fault, no matter what. Just because you were intoxicated doesn’t mean that you’re “fair game” all of a sudden. You’re still a human being with rights, including the right not to be violated. And even if, in the end, no one can prove that the rape occurred, you’ll still want to mention this to your pdoc and therapist, because it’s still a traumatic event that needs to be addressed. Actually, maybe you should call your pdoc right now? Or, in the morning, I suppose. Leave a message, maybe.
I’m sorry that this is happening to you, @Toshiko. It’s unfair and, I imagine, frightening. But you’ve got people on your side, no matter what. I do hope this situation is resolved justly. 
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