I lived alone as a teen and young adult.
Then again at 33.
It was really hard on me.
Now that I’m in my upper 40s, I really don’t think I could do it again if something happened to my husband.
I need help managing daily stresses.
If something happens to my husband, I think I’ll need to live in a group home.
Does this mean I have Dependent Personality Disorder?
It means you had traumatic life…
But lots of people live through trauma, and yet they’re independent. I’m not. Not anymore.
no. not nessisarily. if that were the case then someone whos an adult with an iq of 40 would also have DPD. it just depends on what the person is capable of and their reasons for depending on someone else.
I don’t think dependent personality disorder exists??
Being dependent on our loved ones is normally the case for schizophrenics and other illnesses
I often worry about being alone completely, i think its something far down the line if at all.
Try not to worry
Were same age ish and at least you have kids to help out
That’s true @irrelevant . I just hope that in my case I can overcome the issue.
I need to be able to live independently. It’s not right to depend on others. It’s not fair to them.
It’s just that I can’t handle all the stresses that come with life. I can’t cope on my own anymore. It’s as if I’ve met my limit.
No dpd is probably like unstable self image and need for emotional and other non material support from people.
I have one blood related daughter who is at this time still not independent, and 2 stepdaughters. I’m not thinking I’ll be able to rely on them for support @anon29983254 .
Of course when your elderly your kids will be there for you.
My mums 70 yrs and runs around like shes twenty after everybody. Shes looking after her 86 yo aunt whos terminal cancer. All the family are visiting and doting on her. It must be lovely having kids when your elderly to care. She has palliative carers going in everyday too. Shes being well cared for. Shes lived alone since her hubby died 15 years ago. She manages
If you need to go into a group home if the time came then thats fine. I’ll probably want to as well if anything happened lol its okay to plan ahead in your mind lol
why? humans are built to live in groups and help and depend on each other. of course u should be able to be alone but theres nothing wrong with depending on others. i live mostly alone tho not without some help and i actually think that is more unnatural.
I lived on my own until I got on antipsychotics now Im like a baby dependant on my family and afraid to be home alone at night
I just checked and there is a dependent personality disorder
I’m with you @LilyoftheValley I don’t do well alone…if I outlive my wife I will have to almost immediately find someone else…it’s that bad…maybe you can do the same…no shame in finding someone right away.
Yeah. I’m just hoping I don’t have a personality disorder
No, it means you have a psychotic illness such as Sz. We have an illness which sometimes means that we can’t live independently.
I have thought about living in a group home a couple of times. If I don’t have an alternative then I guess I’ll have to move in to a group home.
We wouldn’t be having this discussion if we were talking about handicap people.
I’m at the very low end of moderate range of dependency based on that quiz @firemonkey so it’s not quite as bad as I thought.
@Speedy , I need to try to remind myself of that.
I think I have the opposite of that. Always been very independant and not wanting to depend on people.
me too. extrememly asocial. the only way i depend on anyone is a help with my living situation. but not emotionally or socially. just for the reason i can afford to live anywhere.