I tried an ad on a friends app, someone said hi, and I was then immediately ghosted after replying back with what seemed to me like just a petty, friendly comment about sleeping and watching tv. Similar bad experience before that with a dating app. I got about 5 “likes” on it from people who swiped right. Then after a few days when they actually read my profile they all deleted me because I said I’m smart and know all about health and nutrition and tv and movies.
Why would you ghost and delete someone for just being friendly and sociable and smart? I guess dating and friends apps are exclusively for “superior”, “mentally healthy” people now (I’m being sarcastic).
Yeah, I used to put my hopes on dating apps until a few years back. Maybe I find it easier than joining a book club or take dance classes or go hiking with groups. But all these alternatives are better imho, because many people tend to build fake online personas.
It’s generally a red flag if someone tells you they are smart. Smart people don’t need to as it is something you notice quickly during interactions with them. Or the lack thereof.
Im gonna make a date simulator. AI will auto match profiles then simulate multiple dates. If you want the premium version then it will simulate up to 2 years of dating. If you want the vip package then it will simulate living together including all scenarios from arguing to romping then you can skip right to getting married when you meet
Mentioning that I read on a bunch of topics (health, nutrition), and read the newspaper, in order for my ad to create the impression that I’m smart, and also to mention that I watch lots of tv and movies, like certain foods and things, etc, is not a fake persona or red flag. It simply is telling people about myself. I would have nothing else to say but this. It is the story of my life. It’s unfortunate that there isn’t anyone who likes that as it is.
I’ve made some good friends and partners off of dating apps. My current partners I met online and I’ve been dating my bf for almost 3 years now. It takes a lot of patience and trying again and again.
Either you’re smart or you’re not and it will come through in your writing. I don’t know you well enough to pass judgment, but if your ad is not getting the desired results perhaps have a trusted third party take a look at it for you.
I second the “have someone look at your profile” thing.
I stay away from ads. Something in me (not sure it is me or just being a woman) attracts creeps. I depend on real life meetings for getting to know new people.
Bars, dance clubs, café’s, karate dojos, gyms, playhouses, concert halls, swimming pools, beaches etc. One can join a salsa group, a photography club, take drawing or foreign language classes, volunteer for the environment or a charity, go on guided tours, etc.
Or one can choose the comfort of their couch and seek solace on social media. It’s what I am doing right now, but not all day every day.
I must admit, my confidence took a heavy blow after sz. I find it hard to make new acquaintances. It’s one of my goals this year to get out of my shell and connect more, outside the virtual world.
I think fb groups are better for this. You can target specific hobbies in a specific location.
People behave way nicer because they are on their main social media.
That is a valid point, Andrey. Maybe it would be up to fate. But what if there is no faith in fate? Could it be luck. I think it may be skill, or a mixture of good qualities and a touch of charm.
then you can skip right to getting married when you meet
