I think I’ve reiterated this before but last year I met a guy while interviewing for medical school. After the interview we were on the same plane to NC and talked for four hours. On the plane it turned out he was seated next to me and asked for my number. We talked over the phone for a while but he suddenly got into the medical college of Wisconsin and changed his number so I can’t find him. I know he really liked me at the time. I really like this guy and can’t move on and date other people online, so I want to go visit his school to see if I have another chance. I moved back home to Hawaii. I live with my parents and would otherwise just spend my disability money on a trip to Japan or somewhere. I just can’t move on without another try since I like this guy so much. I really don’t want to move on without a final visit to his school. Is that so bad?
A year… Maybe find him on social media before you spend any money on a trip… Any number of factors may have presented themselves over the course of a year…
Um, I’m going to play the devil’s advocate here, but him changing his number doesn’t mean he lost yours.
I wouldn’t try to find him if I were you, a lot happens in a year.
I tried looking around online but can’t find him. I’d rather get rejected outright and see him one more time. Even if I don’t see him I actually always wanted to visit Wisconsin. And idk what to spend my money on anyways because I don’t pay food or rent and there’s no point saving $700 a month… Idk just can’t move on. Should I just move on and never think about this guy again?
You mentioned Japan… That sounds awesome…
i would just move on if i were you. i know a connection like that can make you love crazy but it’s been a year and he’s moved on so you should too
Yes, you should move on. It sounds like he has.
Take the good that came from it. Think about what you liked about this guy and bring those expectations to the next person you meet. If this guy was really great, expect to meet another great guy!
Traveling to meet someone without arranging it with them is not actually romantic. Sorry.
It’d be nice just to see him one more time even to be rejected or told what happened. I always wanted to visit Wisconsin anyways… I really like him and it’s detracting from my ability to like anyone else.
If he changed his number and never gave you the new one, that should tell you everything you need to know right there. He isn’t interested. He could have easily contacted you at any time if he was. Move on, and don’t turn into a creepy stalker. If you go to Wisconsin and hang around his school hoping to find him, you will absolutely be a creepy stalker. I don’t mean to sound so blunt, but I know from experience that when you’re in love with someone, you lose the ability to pick up on hints if they’re not what you want to hear.
Like everyone has said he had your number so he would have contacted you if he was interested.
I’d get over it if I were you. Take his silence as rejection. If he was really interested in you he would’ve kept in contact.
Are you sure you really want to visit Wisconsin for reasons other than just seeing him? Really sure?
My mother once told me that if a guy really likes you, he’d climb any mountain to get to see you.
Imagine if you were in his shoes. If you’d stopped contacting a person and moved away and moved on with your life, then they suddenly turned up and expected you to give them some kind of answer to their obsession. It would be really weird.
Go to Japan, or save up your money to move out and live independently. Your ruminating about this guy is going to destroy you and be counterproductive to your life and happiness.
How do you make $700 a month without paying any bills? I don’t make much more than that and I have to pay bills or I would lose money. I’m just curious.