Could have,should have

It’s always bubbling away toxically just under or above the surface. - the what could’ve/should’ve been with decent mental health treatment and a much earlier dx of ASD. Sometimes it really gets me down.

Adjusting to how things are rather than how they could/should’ve been is no doubt the healthiest approach.Att times it’s a far from easy thing to accept though, the potential that will never be fulfilled. The feelings of uselessness and worthlessness.

I make a big thing about intelligence, but for all the good it’s done me I’d have probably been better off being averagely intelligent. The reason it’s a big thing? It may be meaningless , but I do quite well on the tests. That boosts my fragile self esteem,for a short while. However sooner rather than later feelings of failure and inadequacy take over. That I’m an imposter. That I’ll never be good enough.

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Even with the best of care things might not have turned out that different. Mental illness can lead you down life’s cul de sac anyway.

It might have made the journey a bit more palatable though, but the destination would probably have been the same.

That’s the conclusion I’ve come to.

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