Today is National Coming Out Day! I know I’ve said it in passing before, but I figured now would be a good time to just say it once and for all: I’m a transsexual. This means I was born male-bodied, but mentally I’m female. I’m about halfway through my transition from male to female, though I had to stop taking estrogen due to my stroke, and I probably won’t ever go back on it.
Being trans is a huge part of my life. Probably it impacts my daily life more than having sz. I try to celebrate it, be happy with myself, instead of dwelling on the dysphoria and the depression, and every step I take towards completing my physical and social transition is a cause for joy.
Aside from that, I’m also bisexual with strong heterosexual leanings. This means I prefer men, but women are attractive to me too and under the right circumstances, I may be persuaded to sleep with a woman. I’m also demisexual, which means I don’t really feel a sexual attraction to someone without there being an emotional attraction first. Basically it means I’m attracted to personality before body.
So there it is. If anyone else feels like sharing their sexuality/gender identity/whatever here, please feel free!
well, I had a huge blowout with Angela but we made up and today I have stopped smoking without really even craving a cigarette? I just really want to stop and this is making me feel very positive about my life…glad you posted.
Oh, congratulations! I quit smoking a little over 2 1/2 years ago, it’s really amazing how much better you’ll feel. And I’m glad you made up with Angela!
good on you for talking about it and your honesty…you are amazing…
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Well met! I’m Paul and I’m straight! Still. I have a lot of different people who are friends on my facebook and many are gay and I know it’s never easy being different!
Good for you! It’s important to be proud of who you are and not to judge people for things that they can’t control!
Nobody should have to hide who they are. I don’t think I’ll ever understand trans-sexuality but people should be free to do as they wish with their own bodies.
If anything, the Abilify is a little too speedy, I’ve been losing weight and I have a lot of nervous energy. My hands shake a little sometimes. But I feel a lot happier and more stable on it than with Risperdal!
I’m straight, but not narrow.
I judge people by their personality first and only. What their physical body looks like is not important to me, because that isn’t always within our control.
If a person is honest, caring courteous, and does their best to be the best they are able, then the personality trumps the physical.
Congratulations on this. I have a feeling there have been a lot of obstacles to over come to get to this point. I am glad your able to look past the depression and all the negativity that could knock you down… and keep looking ahead to the final goal.
Thank you for this… I had no idea there was a word for that. I’ve been wondering what is wrong with me that I don’t get physically attracted to people like others seem to. This word has cleared up a lot of my pondering about things.
I think a lot of people are demi, though I definitely know plenty who aren’t. It’s not really a big deal, I don’t think of it as there being anything wrong with me, it’s just how I am.
That being said, I can look at someone and say “she’s pretty”/“he’s handsome”, but the desire to sleep with them isn’t there until I get to know them. So I guess I have an aesthetic attraction but no sexual attraction at first.
I’ve sort of thought of myself as being bisexual due to the fact that I’ll start talking to someone… anyone… and if the friendship grows, and I like their kindness or their energy… male or female… I have a tendency to fall in love with people rather quickly.
The fact that I do this… makes me try and back off and then I’m sure I’m sending mixed signals… I feel sorry for anyone who tries to date me… I’ve been called confusing.
I was confused on it too. Was looking into where I fitted into the asexuality scale awhile ago. Where I came across a demi test. Was a great relief to be honest. I guess the sign of times as so many are promiscuous these days. Or all the other way on Asexuilty. Hmmm feeling like a freak for being normal I guess. But the age old question what’s normal?
It seems a lot of middle of the road thinking has been erased these days… pop culture seems to have to be all or nothing these days… people can’t just be people any more… they have to be personas.
I am grateful for my family…
It’s never been a pressure for me to be “normal” (??) since my family is open minded and has always been supportive of any of my cousins … and their own students who have come out.
So I do know deep down if I ever told my parents or siblings … “Guess what… I’m not straight” (which I don’t think I am really)
I don’t think they would bat an eye. I know deep down… gay, straight, bi, … I’d still be loved and accepted. That took a lot of the anxiety out of the equation when I was trying to figure myself out. (Not that I have in any way)
Honestly @SurprisedJ I wonder if you even realize how much you have grown as a person over the years. As you show compassion, intelligence and wisdom beyond your years
