Can't get myself to visit my Dad

Lots of family is over at mom’s today spending time with my step dad who is dying soon. Mom said I can’t cry if I visit and knowing me I will cry so I stay home. I cry enough about it even just sitting here in my own house. My dad knows I love him and he has plenty of family around him so I think he will be fine.

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I’m sorry about your stepdad @jukebox that’s really sad news.

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Just remember that everything living has to die. It’s the final part of existence. It sounds to me like your step dad was a fine man. Try to remember him as when he was at his best.

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I’m so sorry @jukebox. You’re a deeply feeling human who cries when terribly sad things are happening. I don’t understand when people shun emotion. God bless your heart :heart:️ You’re going to get through this.

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You should go @jukebox, even if you cry, you’ll regret not spending more time with him. Sorry to be a downer :heart:

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dude you should go see him… tell your mom to hold her tongue and if you cry then cry. He’s your dad. He needs to see all of you. What kind of bs is it that you can’t cry for someone on there deathbed…

my two cents.

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I believe your heart is with him.

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I hope you get to see him. I’m sorry that you are going through this. ((Hugs))

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who cares if you cry. crying is the proof that you love him go out there dont let him die without you he need you.your not gonna be able you live with yourself if you dont say goodbye my mother and my brother died when i was young…do it man just do it

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When I was pronounced terminal (doctor was wrong, obviously) my mom had this weird notion that nobody should be allowed to cry in front of me. It made me angry and feel like I wasn’t allowed to be sad over my own death. When my dad finally cried in front of me, I finally felt like someone actually cared, and it made me less afraid of my own negative emotions. I don’t know your stepdad, but that’s how it was for me.

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