Feeling so overwhelmed!
Like I’ve got the weight of the entire world on my shoulders!
Can’t handle living with and taking care of my elderly father anymore!
He is getting worse mentally and physically and I don’t have the strength to help take care of him anymore.
He fell and hit his head on the cabinet when my brothers flimsy folding chair fell apart.
I am constantly worried about him.
Don’t know what to do anymore.
I worry about everything.
Isn’t there someone that can help you?
I take care of my grandmother and I’m always worried about her too.
I feel for you. I hope you find relief soon. 
My brother told me that he may hire someone in the future to help with my father.
I honestly feel he needs help now.
In my country my local government has also some free services to help elders in their homes, do you know if there is something like that also in your country?
Sorry @Wave. I hope you can get some help soon.
Have you looked into hiring a medicaid caregiver? Most states have a program where medicaid pays someone to provide aid for an elderly or disabled person. It is meant to pay family members or close friends, but can be used to hire anyone qualified to care for your dad. And it is all paid through medicaid or medicare.
He doesn’t have Medicaid and where I live Medicare doesn’t provide much help, especially if it’s long term.
@Ninjastar @zeno
It is a medicare service as well.
Sorry Wave 
that sounds hard my mum fell over the dog today as well. luckily she only hurt her arm a little i tried to catch her but i hurt my arm as well
My mum is hard work, she is constantly on my back i try and put up with it but lately i just couldnt take it and snapped at her, i try to explain things to her and she struggles to hear its very frustrating and sort of high pressure, i was lucky my nephew cut her grass today bc i wasnt up to it
I think if things get worse she may need some professional help, a carer or something, if things get too tough for you then get help, as much help as you need, its better for everyone to get the right people on to it to help.
hope this help
Oh my gosh, that’s a whole world of hurt. Sending you all the (((hugs))) and good vibes I can, mang.
That’s so hard! I think the Medicare skilled nursing care allowance could help out. That’ll at least give you a little break.
I think Medicare has home care, but they don’t pay for long-term nursing home care. They will only pay for a nursing home if the person is in there for rehabilitation.
Medicaid pays for nursing home care. In my case my income is too high to qualify for Medicaid. However, you can hire a lawyer to set up a Miller Trust to get on Medicaid for a nursing home.
My sister and I went through putting mother in a nursing home in 2010.
I think that here, Medicare can help with some Nursing but not with home health aides.
My brother would have to pay privately.
We went through this with my Mom.
My father is stubborn he’s refusing the help.
He expects me to do everything for him and I don’t have the strength.
My brother will have to get involved.
I lived and took care of my grandmother for some time. Later she couldn’t take a shower, etc My mother hired nurses to bath her, cut her nails, give her her meds, cut her hair etc It wasn’t fully covered so my mother had to pay a good part. She was a heavy smoker and had kidney disease, she had to filter blood a couple times a week, I brought her to the bus in a wheelchair.
I’m sorry @Wave. That’s a really tough situation. It is very difficult to take care of an aging parent and it’s unfortunately not uncommon for them to initially be resistant to the idea of help from someone outside the family.
Can you check if your county has a social worker that specializes in the elderly? They would be able to advise you and your brother about options for arranging care for your dad. Also, they could do a home visit with your dad and discuss things with him. Your dad may be more receptive to advise from a social worker.
If you have no option maybe you can put your dad in an elderly housing where they take care of him.
Nursing homes here accept Medicaid.
My father doesn’t qualify for Medicaid so this is not an option.
My father still can do many things on his own too, for now but he’s going down hill a bit more.
Thanks @Moonbeam I’ll talk to my brother about this.
That’s a very tough situation @Wave. I feel for you. I had a similar situation with my Mom. Hugs to you ((()))!!! Try to take a little time for yourself each day and reward yourself for getting through another one. Take each day one day at a time.
Thanks @Unclehenry