I don’t think that my boyfriend believes that I hear voices… I have had them since my first episode back in October 2016.
I get them especially when I’m trying to go to sleep and I don’t have background noise on to distract myself.
So I was trying to go to sleep the other night but I was having them really badly. So I got up to go outside for a cig because I was getting upset with what they were saying and he followed me outside and asked what was wrong…
So I told him that they were basically telling me to kill myself and I SWEAR I heard him whisper “bullsh*t”
This really spun my head out as I have no reason to lie about this and I go out of my way not to talk about my voices as I want to feel normal.
My point of view was kinda that I don’t need him to believe me and I don’t have anything to prove. But at the same time it hurts me to think that he doesn’t trust me on this?
When I first started to have intrusive thoughts, my mom didn’t believe me. It hurt because I basically poured my heart out to her and she betrayed me by calling me a faker and an attention seeker. It still makes me angry.
Would your boyfriend be open to a conversation about the topic? Maybe he’s having trouble wrapping his mind around it and just needs some explanation.
I was working, had a full social life and was generally put together.
Eventually, he came around, but only after witnessing the psychosis himself.
I think that schizophrenia/hearing voices is scary and unrelatable to most people,
They just prefer not to believe it.
Its not something like depression where most people feel they have experienced similar symptoms,
Hearing voices is just off the “normal” charts.
However,
I don’t like his reaction.
When I told my husband (then boyfriend) I was experiencing symptoms like that, he was uncomfortable and asked if he could help, then promptly changed the subject when I said no.
This guy straight up is trying to call you out and that seems aggressive.
Regardless of what the problem is, he failed to support you in a time of need and for me, that would be a problem.
I just don’t think a guy sleeping next to you at night, would say ‘■■■■■■■■’ makes no sense. He probably has no clue what it’s like and had nothing to say.
@naturallycured I just don’t believe every whisper is a hallucination, I know a lot of them are but surely not every single one. Regardless it won’t stop playing on my mind
@Sardonic I had a similar reaction from my mum when I told her about my intrusive thoughts too :(.But it’s a form of OCD! Also I don’t know how I’d even start that conversation, I kinda clam up with stuff like this
@anon54386108 first of all, thank you for not just writing this off as a hallucination! I think it’s so easy for people to be like oh it’s just your mental health when sometimes it really isn’t.
It is a problem but I have no idea how to fix said problem… and it shouldn’t have to take full on seeing an episode for it to click into place that these things happen-.-
@mermaid1 I wouldn’t of thought that would happen either but it has and I dunno maybe I did just hallucinate it but I’m pretty sure I didn’t
I’ll try!! Just a bit nervous too is all he said in the beginning that he finds all that stuff interesting and that he thought it was a gift. Don’t know if I agree with that like haha.
the first people i told i was hearing voices to was my partner and our best friend. well neither believed me until i had the first official major breakdown then my partner believed me but not our friend after the hospitalization our friend kind of dropped off and we never saw her again.
i know when people don’t believe it can hurt. if they feel like you are trying to get attention just don’t make them doubt yourself you know what you are experiencing.
You can hallucinate people speaking under their breath? I’ve heard so many people whisper things under their breath… The sucky thing is people actually do that, so how are we supposed to make heads or tails of when people are being passive-aggressive? I feel like this is an instnace of gaslighting, sorry. I refuse to believe that I can’t trust my ears.
EDIT: For advice, I’d echo others saying you should take some time to cool off regardless. He’ll come around eventually.
he said in the beginning that he finds all that stuff interesting and that he thought it was a gift. Don’t know if I agree with that like haha.