Pixel got into hot water on the Trans and Tattoo threads…me on the Feminist thread.
Reminder- I’m 50 years old…Pixel getting near that mark…and we both grew up in an era where Political Correctness did not exist.
The foundation of our characters was built on that. We carry a dose of cynicism against those who believe that every single word you speak should define who you are. People are complex and it’s our successes and failings that make us all human beings. Judge a person on their life as a whole instead of trying to nail someone to a cross over a few words spoken freely on a topic. You wouldn’t have the goodness that is in both of us without the adversity that can come when speaking your mind.
I’m just going to be myself like I always have been on this site. I never asked to be your role model, so save the disappointment tears for somebody else.
My sister is way too politically correct…it’s like walking on eggshells with her.
She’s gotten a little bit better.
She holds it against ME but not my dad…if I say anything slightly joking about race, sexuality, w/e, I get slapped across the face. Meanwhile my dad can say whatever crude joke he wants and she just says “omg thats terrible”, half-laughing.
There’s a street in my city called Mann Ave…named after a local philanthropist.
One day I went on a Radio call-in show and demanded that the city rename the street to “Person Avenue”…as the current name was offensive because it didn’t include women in the name.
The Radio host thought I was serious, and the whole thing turned into an hilarious farce. Some callers phoned in after me and agreed with me!! lol!
What do you do when you realize that you’ve inadvertently cruelly insulted a friend? Human decency, not political correctness, usually points to an apology.
I utterly disagree agree with your feelings on feminism, but that’s not why I’m upset. I utterly disagree with ttp and pixel and numerous other friends on plenty.
I’m upset because you said something cruel while drunk for laughs, but are too proud or whatever to say, Whoops, sorry, Rhubes, didn’t think that through.
Anyway, the avatar and the thread making and the digging in show that it’s more important for you to justify yourself than it is to be kind to your friends. That sucks.
All my friends I’ve ever had were racist and politically incorrect…especially my friends who were minorities…making fun of their own race. I’m probably the least racist most politically correct and get offended the most of all of them…but I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t rubbed off on me a little bit. That’s my excuse and I’m sticking too it.
My parents are conservative and older so that’s rubbed off me a little. I’ve never been accepted into the ring of political correctness liberal was…besides my sister and her bf…that said I don’t think I say anything too over the top. or think it either. I’m not a racist, I just tend to think racist things when a minority spews hatred towards me for no ■■■■■■■ apparent reason.
If I got drunk and posted that all right wingers were fat, sweaty basement dwellers angry at their loss of power and that hot chicks won’t bang them, and posted pics of Chris Christie and Mike Huckabee in the midst of an odd grimace and contrasted them with pics of Obama and Trudeau, you’d better bet I’d be telling Pix the next day that I was out of line. I wouldn’t be digging in and defending it.
Advice taken. In return, I’d ask you to think about what “being yourself” means - are you someone who thinks it’s more important to never be wrong, or instead to be kind?
I just have one question…is it wrong for me…well say I go into every situation with an open mind. “This person is a good person” naturally. And then that person spews hatred towards me. And I think “what a…____________” (never the n word or some racial slur) but I might think "why was that black person so mean to me, was it because I’m white (among other things)…or if it’s a white person "why was that person mean to me, is it because i’m x y or z (among other things)…or whatever the situation…if someone spews hatred towards me I throw it right back at them with equally prejudiced thoughts.
I think that’s human. I guess my advice is to think about how you react when someone with no noticeable difference to you spews hatred, and try to apply that in general.
Also, if you find yourself jumping to broad conclusions, be on the lookout for ways you might be wrong. Make sure to notice the black people (per your example) who act in other ways, too.
Last bit, if you keep getting the same sort of reaction from a lot of different people, be ready to set your ego aside (this isn’t to you personally, btw, it’s to everyone) and see if you can see why that might be.
Keep in mind that your first assumption is usually right - people are decent. They don’t usually get mad just to get mad or to be a jerk. There’s usually something else driving it.
nah most people in general are cool to me…especially males…it was just this one guy who started picking on me for no reason the other day for walking by him…i gave him the benefit of the doubt at first and he still continued with his hatred
yeah its probably on him…im not one to speculate what his deal was, but he had a deal. and i couldnt help thinking he hated me cuz im white and was walking in a nice neighborhood (not even my neighborhood) but nevertheless…he seemed bitter and angry
Doesn’t sound like there’s much you can take from it.
Could be a jerk, could be having a bad day, could be having an episode, could be bitter about how white guys don’t have the problems walking in nice neighborhoods that black guys do.
In any case, if all he did was yell incoherently at you, you’ve got no way of knowing what his deal is.
Personally, I tend to justify people’s bad behavior…and bad jokes.
But what I really can’t stand is when you criticize things while being completely uninformed or misinformed - and still hold that egocentric condescending attitude.
That’s not being “myself” dear Patrick, that’s being amateurish and ignorant and too lazy to actually get to research things you are talking about.
