I think if i promise myself - every morning - that i will not do anything damaging that day
I would be able to stop sedentary behaviour, over eating (binging), shopping uncontrollably and in a damaging to my family way…
I could go to the gym every day for 20 mins of cardio and alternate 20 mins on weights after a 5 min warm up - finally lose weight - have more control over my spending - go back to bed instead of aping around on the internet for no reason
Nothing you want is unreasonable. It’s hard to motivate to do those things - some are on my list and have been for some time, but gradually you can achieve it.
I think we all have things we would like to do. I know I do. I’d like to shower more often, paint my nails, apply make-up (I enjoy these things even though I can’t get myself to do them), wash my sheets more often and go to the gym 3 to 5 days a week. I also need to start volunteering at the hospital. Oh ya…and I would like to meet a really nice guy that I am attracted to who isn’t obsessed with sex. Maybe we could work out together.
Doesn’t seem like much to ask, lol. Most of that list is just me doing it.
Thank you for your encouragement and positivity
however - It feels like a holy grail in fact - the damaging effect of the behaviours will kill me if i continue…
I have been on self destruct since a very early age and that is a difficult one to kick… i mean i have a ‘tragedy script’ (Transactional Analysis) and often there is no way to break free of that (Eric Berne died age around 60)
what i mean is you can’t always get away from that not that you shouldn’t try
We can only try. Someone said to me on here the other day that putting the effort in means a lot and you’re doing your best to be a good person.
I can relate to the self-detruct as I implode sometimes with it all and go off the rails. It sounds like you have your family to support you? I have put mine through a lot and they’re still here which says a lot.
I hope you reach your goals. Just know they’re not unachievable. I wish you best of luck.
I hope that i can do this a day at a time like AA
it’s easy to stop being positive
I agree with that - that we all want to improve - even my collegue - mother of three, and working probably has stuff that she should be getting on with.
She makes it look easy though
Is your family behind you regarding your solutions? I also do self damaging behaviors and I think my own life would get better if I told family and professionals exactly what I need at the time.
very good. There is nothing good in shopping sprees in my opinion if you don’t buy anything you need.
Over eating is also a problem, it is bad for health.
Hitting the gym is good for health.
About surfing the internet versus going to bed it depends on the situation.
If you slept enough it is not necessarily good to go to bed…(to Chrystal)
I haven’t mentioned it
I feel very private about it it’s very early days
Although yes they would be behind me