Have you had bad therapists? First time I ever went to a therapist when I was 19 I said I think I needed meds…he began to mock me.
Then there was this other therapist at the sober house I never saw but she was a snitch. My friend was 17 and told her his mom smoked weed and she threatened to call child services for child endangerment…he never told her anything again after that.
And this one kid said he did something and she said “yeah like any true sociopath would do”. I didn’t like the kid but now I feel bad he was really struggling with heroin addiction and she called him a sociopath very abruptly.
And I had a therapist at my Catholic school who turned me down because I had a history with marijuana…he said they don’t do therapy for people who have used drugs. I guess that was more a policy thing than anything but screw catholic schools policies…
Any bad therapists for you? What were your experiences like
This kid I used to talk to on the Internet who is sooo dumb btw, but that’s half his issue…he wants to be a psychiatrist and I have no idea how he made it to med school…he makes/made fun of me constantly for being sz. Very insulting and belittling.
I doubt he’ll ever be a pdoc he will fail miserably but many of these doctors are just out for the money not because they believe in helping people. My doctor is a combination of the two at least…
I remember one psychologist who seemed to like the sound of her own voice. I was waiting to be seen and you could hear her talking to her previous patient. I swear the patient said like three words - the therapist didn’t stop.
It soon became clear upon meeting her that this was her style. I didn’t stay long.
In addition I think she had next to zero experience with psychotic patients. About 95% of her clients had depression or anxiety (I reckon).
Have met a new psychologist who specialises in SZ therapies. She seemed nice and very competent. Starting in a few months time.
One time I was in a nice hospital and this lady came to speak (I’ve been in nice hospitals and shitty ones), and she said “I hate the term “mental illness” when it should be called “mood disorders” instead…bi polar isn’t a mental illness! It’s a mood disorder!” I just stood there with a blank look, she thought everyone in the room (or world with mi for that matter) had non psychotic bi polar…because she couldn’t comprehend that some people have psychotic illnesses and not everyone was there for mood disorders. It was weird.
Tbh I reckon some health care workers are a little bit afraid of psychosis. Am pretty sure I have met some doctors who were or at the very least wanted to pass the buck onto someone else.
I’ve gotten the impression that a lot of psychiatrists operate from the assumption that their patients are usually deluded in some way, and they need the bubble of these delusions popped. It can come across as very invalidating. On the other hand, I’ve gotten the impression that psychotherapy can be very punishing for pdoc’s, as well as the patient, and the pdoc has to take it day after day. This one psychology professor at school told us one time that once you have been a clinician for six months the whole world starts to look like a cess pool.
I told my therapist about the voices after being diagnosed with Schizoaffective and all she said was “Everyone has those thoughts”. Like really? Everyone has annoying loud voices in their head telling them to drink bleach? I was mad!
Yup the therapist I had before my current one. She was awful. Asked me the same 3 questions every time I went to her, never did anything she said she was gonna do (talk to my neurologist, get me set up w a program in my school, etc), she canceled on me constantly, and basically just sucked.
My therapist was too sexy, I couldn’t concentrate on what she was saying because she was so beautiful. Once a week for five years, I just sat there and stared at her lasciviously and licked my chops while she spoke.
I was referred to see a psychologist for anxiety coping techniques.
I was recommended to a particular psychologist by a friend.
I sat down in my first session, said I needed help dealing with anxiety associated with schizophrenia and he says to me “I want you to write your life story.”
Then he spent the rest of our time explaining and outlining the chapters I should write. I spent the rest of the time explaining that I have lead an unremarkable life, with no trauma etc.
I left the appointment thinking all I wanted was someone to teach me CBT or something like that.
I phoned the clinic and cancelled my next appointment and told them I couldn’t afford to keep up with weekly appointments so I wasn’t going to set a new time.
The impression the psychotherapist whom I have worked with in the past gave me is that when there are differences in opinion she is always right and I’m always wrong. She complimented my intellect many times, but whenever we didn’t agree it was always me who was wrong. Kinda strange. I still go see her from time to time, but only because I want somebody to talk to. I refuse therapy itself, I guess.
When I go to her, I feel bad. That’s probably the reason I don’t go to her anymore. She says it’s part of the process to feel bad during therapy, but I’m not buying it. Well, in a way I do, but I think that there are different kinds of feeling bad. Let’s say you have lost a pet and feel bad. You feel bad, but by feeling bad you are actually healing. But then there’s the other kind of feeling bad that doesn’t have any positive purpose at all other than to warn/tell you that you should avoid whatever is making you feel bad. If I put my hand on the hot stove it will feel bad. The bad feeling tells me to pull my hand away. That’s what I mean.
You had great intellect when you agreed, but when you disagreed you were an imbecile? Me personally I like when ppl disagree with me because it gives me a different perspective. I also like being agreed with too. Essentially I like hearing people’s povs! Regardless if they agree or not. Constantly learning changing and adapting. The more you know…
I was mad!