Are you judged by any of your family?

I’m starting to think I got a couple of family members who don’t like me I added them on Instagram and they didn’t add me back I don’t know if its the schizophrenia or the things I’ve done in my past or maybe because I haven’t worked in like 3 years and never went to college oh well I can’t please everybody

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I don’t think I’m overtly judged, but several relatives are a ‘friend’ to my sister but not to me. Neither of my nieces are FB friends. One was, but unfriended me. I’m actually closer to my stepdaughter’s children as my contact with my nieces has been minimal. The one time I spent the Xmas period with my sister they spent 99% of the time in their bedrooms.

My father interacts with my sister far more than me. It’s not overtly expressed, but I sense that I’m a disappointment - never worked( except for a little voluntary/unpaid work)/ never went to university. The son with so much promise that failed to live up to it.

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I have no (count em) Facebook friends except those who like it that I tell it like it is. I finally figured out that I’m adopted and have no family except my ex-husband and my son, anyways so I could care less. I have trouble getting along with my son and husband too, hence my name, Schizoid1. Schizoids have trouble with relationships and getting along in society and live on government assistance. I’m a textbook case.

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people are fickled some time fore sometime against you. just work with forgivening ones more then none. there are many people out there like you you know.

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My family often feels sorry for me because my physical disease is taking over my independence. It’s like a torture for them to see me walk normally, and then in 5 years I’m dependent on mobility aids. They assume I can’t do stuff but I just do everything on my own anyways. I try to prove them that I can do stuff. I guess I don’t like to be pitied because I want to be independent.

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probably my nephews, i said some inappropriate things in front of them about 7 years ago when i was unmedicated. they are still nice to me, but that has probably forever tainted me.

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my sister even stopped coming by the house for visits on sunday afternoons for a couple years, because she never knew what was going to come out of my mouth in front of the kids. but my sister still visited me in the hospital, last time i was there.

i was living with mom and dad at the time.

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My both of my our families judge us not just me for my illness but our relationship. That’s why we can never get married. Our families will fight us tooth and nail if they knew we even talked about getting married.

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My brother hasn’t talked to me in years because of sz

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Welcome to the social dilemma. Get off that shiit.

They prob dont even use instagram man and if they do and didnt add you back they can jog on.

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All my life, yes. But nowadays, they rather judge me favorably.

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Honestly lots of my family members don’t know how to deal with me.

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My parents have said to me multiple times that they’re afraid of me when I’m not on meds. No idea why, I’ve never been violent. They definitely judge me a lot. I’m glad I moved out and away from them. Our relationship has actually improved a lot since I moved out.

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Not to my face. But, I think they do behind my back. :cat2::cat2::cat2:

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Mother used to judge me. When i was pro-dromal and in psychosis she used to say i was badly behaved and often had me locked up in a cell, even tho it was her that started on me - only for my brother to wade in and try to brake my fingers.

It helped tho when i moved away - and just stuck to telephone contact. It took a clinic letter with the diagnosis on for her to believe me, and she was genuinly shocked.

I think she carrys a bit of guilt from the past years - cos she never knew better. Im not saying i was perfect, cos i was a pain in the arse - but i was jumping from 1 crisis to another with no insight - and her growing up in the 1940’s - mental health simply was not discussed.

We get on great now. But i have boundarys - and filter what i say to her these days.
Shes old and knackered at 80, so i would be an arsehole if i held a grudge about it to her.

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I’m ashamed to say it but emotional abuse and neglect of emotional care or even unconditional love was never really there for me.

I’m sort of “tolerated”, because I am 60% functional they can’t get away with making threats of sending me to the hospital anymore which helps.

They won’t ever guarantor me for living on my own either, so there’s that too. They know I have enough sense to still prove useful, and they definitely bank on it.

As for siblings? They’re elated I have mental illness, there was always friction between us. Even the youngest who is ten years junior and who shouldn’t be judging bc of the love I have given, treats me like an outcast.

I don’t even want to begin with the extended family like cousins and uncles and aunts. The only one who treats me normally is the one who doesn’t know. The funny thing is, it’ll be a few years before he clocks on that there is something seriously wrong, because atm he just thinks I must have been a troublemaker (he doesn’t think badly of me)

Idk. This is a really touchy subject for me. I feel heartbroken just trying to write about it.

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Yeah, my uncle sits on the Supreme Court.

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