Are you emotionally submissive or dominant?

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I like to think of myself as submissive, but uppity about it.

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I am more of a submissive than a dominant person .

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I try to be neither but I can easily get aggressive if I feel someone has wronged me, so maybe I’m more dominant. IDK.

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I had a more submissive behavior in romantic relationships, and dominant in family relationships.

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you can be vindictive and still be submissive. no worries there :slight_smile:

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I’ve been dominant in most relationships…

Really I just throw out the set concepts…

With this last girl that I was talking too I found it more viable to be submissive. I learned a lot. Then we got back to my town here and I started to show more dominant characteristics.

Three times or so she was struck with a look of confusion caused by me. She’s more or less that same though. Free from traditional concepts. I call things out when I think they really need to be said. She listens and vice versa… I do let her opinion reign a bit more often than my own. I have SZ… my opinion is crap… her opinions and perspective put a lot of my frustrations to rest…

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i am certainly submissive

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Sometimes dominate but mostly compromising.

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Is this about what I think it’s about? :smirk:

I used to be submissive, but now I am 100% dominant.

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:no_mouth: If we are going by CJ’s logic… I am dominate only when I am not tired.

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That’s what I was wondering too.

I’m incredibly submissive but I’m learning to put some dominance in my arsenal every week thanks to C. Before he started to teach me this stuff I was practically codependent.

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I’m submissive in that the concept of self often eludes me, but step carefully and be kind please and thank you, where nearly all have for I’m an emotional thunderstorm, attracted to the same. Though my last love (only to be realized as a “love” after the fact and very much so after having moved up and on with life) we were both submissive, I’d constantly blatently ignore her “non-smoking” house rule and she’d silently burn inside, but what I wanted is that growl to grow into a storm that would confront me, perhaps this is why she always encouraged me to get drunk though.

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Sometimes we’d just sit and play cards or cuddle late into the night and watch criminal minds, she never cooked, lived on delivery, we’d sit and eat chinese off a cardboard box that sufficed for a coffee table. She never complained about my desire to stop in at the liquor store (no one did) as she couldn’t stand the taste of alcohol but wanted to get drunk so I think lived through me even though I could be a jerk at times. I imagine her still living in that little corner studio even though she’s found professional employment. I often miss iher like all hell is what. She was OCD.

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I’ve always considered myself submissive (though maybe kind of mulish), but the dogs think I’m dominant :smile_cat: I just have to walk into a room for them to snap to attention. They walk all over my roommate.

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get your head out of the gutter. i was not talking about S&M.

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I don’t know how submission and dominance can relate to emotions. If it’s about something like a power struggle, it could go either way for me at different times. My emotions tend to be very intense and easily provoked when I’m not properly medicated. So one could say I am emotionally “submissive” because others could easily provoke and thus control my emotional reactions (unless I’m dissociated or medicated). On the other hand, when my emotions do come forth, they are often so intense and overbearing that some would probably perceive it as an attempt to “dominate” emotionally (although in reality it’s more like just exploding in random directions than anything else).

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then you’re dominant . . . . i think. in a healthy relationship, it flip-flops, but people tend to either like to feel desired, helpless, safe, possessed or to take the opposite role.

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Oh I see, if it’s from that angle than I would say I am more avoidant then either sub or dom. I don’t enjoy being wanted/needed it gives me anxiety, and I don’t enjoy desiring someone else, either.

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i don’t entirely believe you. not entirely. i believe you would like to believe what you’re writing, but i don’t fully buy it.

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I don’t really think of myself as either one. Mostly I am aloof. I would probably be classified as submissive, but that’s because I am just going along to get along.