I have yet to have a relationship last more then a few months in 38 years of life. I do have life long friends and family but romantic love just never seems to happen.
I am haunted by the words that someone once told me I am not made for “Romantic Love”
I tried to have my first relationship a few months back. I couldn’t cope with it well at all. It nearly sent me into a hole stressing about it.
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I understand that feeling, I was trapped in constant thoughts that my partner was cheating on me.
Abandonment is a mega trigger for me to have a episode, my Therapist and I agreed that I need to close all social media/ dating/ hook up; application.
I really hope that one day I can find and keep a romantic relationship.
That was my sneaky brained paranoia as well. I ruined a few relationships convinced my partner was cheating on me. Turns out… she wasn’t. But I didn’t believe her.
This time around… I’ve gotten stable and with meds and therapy… have managed to stay pretty stable for nearly three years. I made a friend… and as I got better help… the friendship has grown.
As long as I don’t start accusing her of stuff unfounded… it should continue to go Ok.
Don’t give up hope… as you recover… your situation will change. You might not be up for romance now… but as you grow stronger… who knows.
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Romantic love did not last long during my marriage - dont give up, you may still find it
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After a breakup do you find it hard to let go?
Yes my divorce was traumatic - i suffered a psychotic break, but things are getting better for me now - not really searching for romance
In most cases yes.
There was only one where I broke up with the girl and was glad I did. But even then… it was hard not to second guess myself and think about going back.
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Scott don’t be hard on yourself because it’s ok. I am learning that till I love myself; romance is not going to work out.
I am trying a bit of self affirmation and empowerment, each da. By looking in the mirror and saying “I love you (this being myself) for all the good and flaws. Let no one person or event; take that from you.” I do this 10 times in the morning and 10 times at night; plus if need be in the bathroom at work.
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I was suspicious that someone was showing me too much affection, and I was stressing myself out because I couldn’t reciprocate. I worried that my feeling of emptiness meant that I couldn’t love that person, and I felt really bad that I wasn’t able to meet their expectations. It’s kind of hard to explain, a lot was going through my mind.
I used to think that love was a joke, that I only felt kinship with friends and family and that was it. I found myself to be very incorrect…it takes time and deliberate effort to change, however. You might meet someone whom you can relate to on a deep level, someone you like by all means.
I think there is a difference between love and lust that needs to get sorted out by everyone on their own…I used to think that lust was love…lol, no, love is when people actually care, lust is when you do anything just to have sex, including pretending to care.
By today’s standards I have never actually had a relationship at 33. Though I have gone out on dates.
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I’ve known old couple who still had an active sex life and were still in love.
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Yeah…
Is anyone?
The End
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Sarad… Sorry I don’t speak emoticons. …lol
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Thats ok…
u dont have to be sorry
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It’s odd I am always feel “sorry” I blame my self for everything. It is a huge trigger for me.
Yes, I am in a relationship and have been for about a year, and it is lasting love.
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