I just watched a youtube video that made me think I may still have an unconscious self-shaming problem. I don’t seem to talk to myself in my head in a shaming way… it’s more like I’ve spent so much time thinking things like, “Why were you a guy who liked video games so much but didn’t want to work hard at school?” or “What good were the things that you were into doing for you if this is all your life is now?” that I have a conditioned response to trying to do things that I like, so I just feel put off by them instead of berating myself consciously into not doing them. I’d just like to stop feeling like there’s something wrong with me enjoying myself. Has anyone here overcome this type of problem? I’d like to know how you did it. Thanks.
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I became bitter and blamed everyone else for my troubles. Hey presto! No more self shaming. 
You joke but that’s pretty much how I ended up schizoid
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I haven’t overcome this yet, well not fully. Some of it I have.
I used to say mean things to myself and I stopped that by consciously choosing to be kind to myself. I said affirmations and did CBT, had counselling, and tried all sorts of things. Over the years I learned to love myself.
What I still struggle with is the shame of social situations, like imagining what someone else thinks of me. I misinterpret things to be more negative than other people intended them to be. Because I assume other people will hate me. I’m working on this by slowly trusting people and not running away from relationships when I feel hurt.
I’m sure I do. I didn’t try hard enough in school. Went out with men, I didn’t care enough about.
I’m very ashamed of myself. I haven’t overcome it
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