@CloudDog- I’m sorry your family is being torn apart like this. This is a hard one to deal with. Alcoholism is just as hard to cope with as Sz. It’s so insidious… starts slow… and before anyone really takes notice… it’s crisis mode.
Alcoholism runs in our family. My Grandfather on my Dad’s side was a heavy non-stop drinker, and sadly, all the men in this family are angry monster drunks, not happy lovey ones.
It’s very striking because my Dad and my Uncles are very mellow, patient, pretty upbeat guys. But then when they drink… wham… mean… insulting… ready for a fight. Sad to say, I’m the same when it comes to drinking.
My Grandfather was a very hard man to get to know and hang out with. I also have one Uncle who still drinks to survive his day. He’s getting worse and more resentful about any family that tries to get him help.
My Dad was slipping down that slope as well. But my Mom got him to realize he needed help. My brothers have battled with it and so did I. 6 years sober. I don’t miss it at all.
I hope your sister will get help soon.