my in laws are in their 80 s and i am reluctantly moving to their town.
he has severe diabetes
she has glaucoma which will eventually cause blindness
im not very fond of them
if i move very near to them or live in 2 flats in the same house… that wluld save the stress of errands running
i believe in UK it is not possible to prevent paying a fee for late care
even living in an annexe
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Both my parents are well into their 80s.
I help them both and frankly it’s taking a toll on me.
But in all honesty my father helps me out too.
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sorry to hear x
ive been lookng after my mum for a few months after she was hit by a car in spring
i really cannot see myself coping with acute care, my sister helped so.much in those first few weeks
mum is now just starting to walk without crutches for some of the day
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Good that you seem to get along with them.
I would care for my relatives but my parents would perhaps not want me around so often?
They may get annoyed with me and have a hate of me but I know my mum loves me so it’s ok.
I would care for them if they were in peace with me and allowed it.
I could cook for them ,and shop for them and drive them etc
My symptoms make me unable to do care work .
I could do care work if there was anyone I was comfortable enough with n visa Versa.
But I have a aged care certificate and when I tried working I either was not in my body n things were going on or I got hysteria and other horrid things going on and body tensening to ridiculous feelings that was not ok by me.
It was so awful.
I truly tried but I felt so awful I could not cope nor endure.
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my mom is in her mid 80s and i help her out quite a bit.
sometimes it is too much but she needs it so i do it.
i feel like its a growth process for me to care for someone other than me.
judy
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I care for nobody, I’m a rock, don’t care even about myself sometimes
It’s such a elibarating feling
I live with my GF, she will be turning 80 in November.
I love living with her and I don’t mind helping her out at all. She’s my best friend of all time.
I will take care of her til the end. We’ve been together for over 15 years now.
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I work in aged care so look after lots of people’s elderly parents. It definitely takes a toll on you, and tests your coping capacity. Look after yourself. Makes sure that you give yourself time for respite otherwise you’ll burn out.
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sorry that it didn’t work out
i relate of course in my own way - of hysteria for me of youth work and many other things schizophrenic stuff seems to happen
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