I was physically abused to the point where I believed I would die I was choked basically can’t go into detail it felt like sexual abuse as well still don’t know how to categorize it.i hope I can talk about the Bible a bit .it basically sais that all sin is forgivable but I belive that something like that shouldn’t they should go straight to hell . I was 6or 7 when this happened it was by my stepdad .but im mad because my abuser can technically go to heaven if he asks for forgiveness this keeps me up at nights sometimes. I’ve done my share of sinning but nothing to a child I feel like most of my sins might of never happened if I never got abused.i forgave my abuser but I only did. Because I felt like his daughter believed me when I told her what had happened .I basically told on him but I guess it stressed me out telling my whole family my secret that I developed schizophrenia so Everytime I think of my schizophrenia every day I remind myself how I developed it. Anyways just needed to get that off my chest thanks if you read.
I’m not a christian, but as far as I’ve understood, asking for forgiveness is not enough, they have to want to repent as well. They have to honestly regret and feel bad for what they did and want to be a better person.
That seems easy to do but it doesn’t change the years of pain that it caused me it doesn’t end in childhood it follows you
You need to let go. The statute of limitations has run out on punishing him legally, so holding on to the hate is only hurting you.
Holding on to hate is like drinking poison and hoping the other person gets hurt.
Stop making that person so important in your life. Transcend him.
I’m 41 and I still wear baggy clothes cause I hate men looking at me.
@naturallycured, I don’t think there is a statute of limitations on child abuse.
Oh, but how do you gather evidence decades after the fact?
Pray and let it heal you.
I don’t know but it’s done.
I was abused when I was 19.
I agree with @Pikasaur. You have to repent. It doesn’t say anything in the Bible about “asking for forgiveness”. When John the Baptist was in the Jordan river he never said,”Oh just ask for forgiveness.” But most people who are Christians do it. I did it when I was a Christian.
I’ve always dressed modestly even when I was hot. I’ve come to learn that most men are good but they do struggle with temptation so help a brother out.
Okay- a Catholic here. No it may not work like that.
My religion teaches that only God can judge. Not anyone else. God still knows that you have been abused and if he never seeks forgiveness for that ■■■■ he did to you, chances are he is still in state of sin.
I’m not to judge…however, abuse is a serious crime against the dignity of life both in religious and judicial view.
Also yes I am a child abuse survivor. I was beaten, ridiculed, and abuse during my childhood years. As a result I have CPTSD.
…and if you forgave him you will be rewarded.
You my friend are a strong person. A beautiful person.
Also you are more than welcome to talk about this on the Catholic Answers Forum- talking about religion is against the rules on here. They might be able to help you with more spiritual support.
Pax.
I’m a survivor of child abuse. My therapist said sometimes we hold onto our pain because it’s the only evidence left of what we went through. But it’s okay to move forward and let go of your pain. It feels like you’re letting them off the hook, but the truth is, your pain is only punishing you.
Do Catholics have to learn Latin? Just curious.
I was abused as a kid and teen. I forgave everyone involved. They didn’t ask for it, it was a gift given to me to be able to forgive. That was the only way to heal. It wasn’t till I truly believed in God that he gave me that power.
I only can imagine the pain. I’m sorry that happened to you. However, don’t let it dictate your present and your future, don’t let it has power over you. You’re a strong person that overcame an horrible torture. I don’t know you but you must be a strong person.
Nah…it’s optional. I was an English major so part of my education was learning latin! It just seems to relate to this, so I just wrote ‘pax’, meaning ‘peace’.