An authority in my life

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there was an authority figure in my life that verbally abused me almost daily. verbal abuse is so confusing; everyone pretends it is nothing while it is actually quite hurtful.

judy

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I put up with two years of emotional abuse from a girlfriend so I can sympathize with this. Men do go through this as well.

I also considered school a form of emotional abuse :wink:

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I was physically and emotionally abused by my father for about 6 years (age 12-18). When I turned 18, I got sick of his ■■■■ and moved out. Best thing I ever did for myself as a teenager.

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i feel bad for you alien99 that you went through so much abuse. am very glad for you that you succeeded in getting out of that house.

I hope you find good luck now and better treatment by people in your life!!

judy

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Thanks Judy. My dad is now dead and gone. A lot of my problems died with him. He was easily the biggest driving force of negativity during those years of my life. I have peace in my life now, and have plenty of good, positive friends around me.

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If you give us the name of the authority figure, we might be able to understand and help better. A parent? A rabbi?

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sorry chordy I don’t want to reveal that but that’s the way it is was and probably always will be with this person.

judy

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i know, it stings and sticks in your memory

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I am sorry Judy that you had been going through this. I hope that the authority is not around you any more. The people who swear, abuse or harass are actually fearful. They always have some kind of fear inside from which they cannot escape. They are so confused in themselves that they cannot figure out how to get rid of it. Then they try to loosen some of the strain by those means but it only fuels their fear.

Next time whenever you see such a person, just think of it that he is miserable who is disturbed from inside. Don’t let his\her characteristics ruin your inner self. Smile, enjoy and (if you practice religion) pray for the person that s/he could come out of its inner conflicts. :slight_smile:

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I’ve never thought of it like this… but the person in my life who has been the most harmful and hurtful does fall into this category.