My aunt is staying with us as she is looking after my grandmother who is with us, and has cancer. So he used to keep turning up to my house and causing issues , causing tension in the house so one day I lost my cool with him and told him to leave. He insisted he won’t so I called the police and he left before they turned up. Now not only does he go around telling relatives on my mums side about me, he also is trying to get hold of numbers of my uncles (dads brothers) so he can talk to them (im assuming about me). My aunt doesn’t want to go back but he just don’t get the message. We just don’t open the door to him anymore so he’s trying to get hold of my relatives so they can I assume scare me so he can come to my house to try and pursuade my aunt to go with him (which she doesn’t want to).
Not sure on narcissism — but def manipulative. He’s spreading stories to isolate you and trying to control both you and the situation
he doesn’t see that its not making me look bad at all, its making himself look bad. and I also don’t have much contact with my dads side of the family and quite frankly I don’t care what they think.
Narcissism is not an adjective of certain adverse behaviours. But it does sound highly manipulative of them, thats for sure. Just keep up boundaries and dont give in!
Who is he? Uncle?
Yes sorry should have made it clear
This man is constantly asking my aunt about my “anxiety”… because my aunts told him he can’t visit because he causes me to become anxious. Now he’s trying to get hold of my other uncles numbers because no one here will give him it
There is probably a very good reason your Aunt doesn’t want to go back. Manipulative behavior such as this lives on a spectrum just like anything else. I don’t know anything about their home life/relationship dynamics but someone reactive like this is really uncomfortable to live with.
Yes I was only trying to protect her by calling the police .. if she doesn’t want to go back she doesn’t have to
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