Do you guys think I’m a jerk? I just had a friend ditch me when I tried to tell her how things work. (She wanted to sue our school but I told her that if her plan to be a doctor fell through she might want to work in the business world and no one would hire her with a lawsuit on her record.) I was a business major and we were told over and over don’t sure anyone. Ever. Everything is supposed to be handled within the company either by human resources or its equivalent and if they don’t handle it you should just try to find a job with a different company. My adviser told me unambiguously that if you ever sue someone no one will ever hire you again. I was a business major.
I warned her that I’m bad at comforting people. It was probably the first thing I told her when we got into the actual friendship stage. She seemed to just want to hear what she wanted to hear which was someone to agree with her in a slightly squeakier voice. She said that she was more masculine but when I approached the problem in a more masculine way (giving solutions to the problem instead of building more rapport.) She got pissed.
Is this why I can’t keep friends? To be fair I’m batting about 50/50 between me ditching them and them ditching me. I’m broken and I seem to attract broken people. I’m fine with that except they either try to deceive me or start to hate me.
Do I come across as an ahole? AM I an ahole?