So when I was psychotic I left my husband. While we were split up he briefly dated this other girl. When I got better we got back together. Now still, more than a year later she is sending him messages on snapchat begging him for money. And also pics of her in revealing, sexy clothing. He keeps telling me and showing me this. Also, she is currently in a relationship. Should I confront her and ask her to stop? She seems immature to me and maybe that’s what she wants, to know it gets under my skin. But my husband says he thinks she uses Snapchat because she thinks she’s keeping her messages secret from me. Or maybe you can block people on Snapchat and I should have my husband do that. Although I find the drama a little interesting, her messaging my husband supposedly in secret and me knowing all about it. But it took my husband a little while to tell me about the naughty pics.
I just checked and you can block people on Snapchat.
r u going to block her?
What do you think? Should I confront her, ignore her but have him block her, or confront her and block her.
She lives in our town and it’s not like I can make her disappear. In fact, I saw her twice today (at the gas station and at Walmart). Or I should say, he saw her twice today. I never can remember what she looks like.
Of course, my husband says she’s still messaging him a year later because she’s “in love with him.” Gotta love his male ego.
I would just have him block her, less drama that way
edit: unless she is in love then it will be drama either way. Take the high road but document every contact if any comes up
sorry I just reread what I wrote and I think I sounded a little paranoid, sorry. I think my meds have stopped working
That’s okay, I didn’t think it was too terribly paranoid.
You should take my word with a grain of salt but if it was me I would’ve already blocked her. He could also try to tell her to stop and then block her if she doesn’t.
My Ex did some sketchy shite to me. Went out with a guy whilst I was married to her.
It’s not unreasonable to ask your husband to delete her. Seriously. If your in a relationship then emotional cheating is just as serious as sleeping with someone. Why does your partner need this person in their life? I’d be livid!
Saying that. Be reasonable! Talk to your partner and let them know your concerned and it’s not good for you. It’s not good for a serious relationship but that is my two cents!
Since you asked… I would confront my husband. He should have immediately told her no and blocked her. It’s like you said, an ego thing and likely he enjoys your jealousy as well. I always told my husband that if he ever cheats on me, it would be HIM, not the other woman, that I would be pissed at because he’s the one that made the promise of fidelity. Just my .02.
I had him block her. And I’m honestly not worried about my husband cheating on me. I wouldn’t have known anything about this if he hadn’t told me. He could’ve kept it secret from me if he wanted to. Instead he told me about her messaging him. He also blocked her on text messages a long time ago.
It’s not a very big town and he doesn’t want to be mean to her when he might run into her at anytime. Today we were going to stop at the gas station but he drove through when he saw her because he didn’t want to deal with her. She’s been trying to hit him up for money and it gets on his nerves. But he tries not to be mean to her because he doesn’t feel she deserves it.
I think he does want to make me jealous a little bit.
I don’t know what you should do but that situation is wrong and it should not be allowed. She should not be sending a married man racy pictures and your husband should not let her send racy picture. It seems like the situation is pretty clear. My opinion is that your husband is allowing this to go even though its wrong. It seems pretty black and white. The girl is just some young idiot doing the wrong thing. But with all due respect your husband is entirely to blame and it’s his responsibility to end it with this woman as of yesterday.
I think you should delete
Not sure what to say as it’s a darn strang situation. It’s NOT something I would do to my own wife as it would be both disrespectful and hurtful to her. I’d tell the young lady to step off. Especially since – in my case – she would be young enough to be my daughter and that would make it extra creepy.