Have you ever considered a man that wants you to assume a “traditional gender role”, is going to treat you like (shit)?
Ask one of the sweet old ladies that grew up during the era your so fond of,
A man that wants you to be his subordinate instead of a partner is dangerous.
You need to find someone you care about and want a partnership with,
Then, later, discuss how you’d prefer to stay at home,
It might be possible.